This could be just me, but does any one else feel like this? When I found out I was pregnant, I was totally freaked out ? over the moon, but totally freaked out. The baby was very much wanted, but it surprised me how much it threw me. The more time passed, the more I got used to it ? hopes & dreams were planned. Then when life threw me a curve ball 11 weeks in, my world fell apart. The baby I had so wanted, was now gone. I don?t need to go into the intensity of those emotions here, I?m sure you all understand.
At first I thought I would never feel happy again, then I was told after a miscarriage women often conceive quickly, so I threw myself into getting pregnant again. It was hope that kept me sane in the first few weeks. I was surprised at just how well I took when AF came along, for a minute I was down ? all that good work came to nothing, but by the time I left the bathroom I was already feeling more positive. At least my body was back to normal. That was a good sign.
In the week since there have been all sorts of emotions, the day my best friend told me she was pregnant, the day I wondered why I was going to be busy on October 15th ? only to realise that was my due date, the day I walked out on a pregnant friend in tears because I could no longer fane interest. Don?t get me wrong, these are the moments that are notable, for the most part it?s been a slow & steady recovery and life getting back to some sense of normal. The baby I thought about every minute of every day, then grieved about 24/7, is ebbing away into a sad and distant memory.
But where does that leave me now? Part of me feels like I need to play catch up ? not get left behind from pregnant friends. Part of me thinks what will be will be; at least we?ll be more prepared this time. The over riding part of me just wants a baby & for our lives to feel complete ? a new chapter, a new beginning. Then, there?s this little part of me ? and this is the part I need the help on, part of me thinks why bother? I mean, why am I bothering with the whole thing? The waiting, the timed sex, the waiting again, the wondering will this be my last glass of wine for 9 months ? shall I try and cram as much ?non pregnant? stuff in as possible. Part of me wonders if I still even want this? I know that I do, but it?s been constant for so long, I wonder if I just need to walk away from this ? stop trying, but then the sooner I get pregnant, the sooner I can focus on the next positive thing. Right now I feel like I?m training for a marathon and I haven?t got a race date.
By no means have I given up, I just feel a bit ??in betweeny? right now and wondered if any one else felt like this?
I don?t post that often, but draw great comfort from this site ? thanks to all the regular posters ? I pray you get your BFP soon.
Much love, XX
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EddiesGirl · 30/05/2011 17:51
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