so so sad

[sweetlucy]

I'm having a really bad day.
I spoke to two people who didn't know and had to tell them I lost my baby. I can't stop crying. I should have a baby right now. I feel so cheated, robbed. How can life be so cruel? How can I go through almost a full pregnancy and loose my baby like this?

[milkyway2007]

Hi, I couldn't leave this thread without replying...I am so sorry for what has happened :( If you want to talk about it then please do - I hope you're okay xx

[minmooch]

I am so sorry sweetheart. I lost my twin girls in September 2008 and it is unbelievably hard to find a way to live again.

I don't know if you have been given information about the SANDS (Stillbirth And Neonatal Death Society) website and the message boards there. We have all suffered loss and there is a tremendous amount of love and support on the message boards. If you have not found us please look out for us as it is a place where there is complete understanding and there is always someone to hold your hand along the journey of grief.

I am not sure how long ago you lost your baby but I can tell you that although it does take time somehow you do find a way to live again, to love again, and to laugh again. I have found a new way to live my life carrying the love and pain I have for my daughters, Katie and Anna, in my heart for always. In the early days of grief I never could have imagined life being normal again. It never is the same normal, but you do find a new normal. It has taken me 2 1/2 years to reach this new normal and there have been many tears along the way. I could not have got through without the love and support of my many friends I made through SANDS.

wishing you much love and gentle days.

[lionmummy]

so sorry to hear this, having to tell people/explain is so hard. I hope today is a better day for you.