namechanged as i am going to sound a right idiot. and i dont know whether to go to the doctors, unsure what is and isnt likely to be linked to perimenopause, and embarrased about talking to anyone.
I am 48 in December, and I do drink far too much alcohol as well. I drink every day and typically a bottle of wine plus a couple of cans of cider, or a bottle and a half - sometimes more. (doing this for years - I have stopped a bit for a few days a week sometimes in run up to wanting to lose weight in time for a holiday - but not long term.) I am unsure how much is linked to drinking and how much hormonal. Also the drink issue is a big reason i am being embarrased to go to the doctors.
I have in the past suffered with stress to a big extent and at that time (about 10 = 15 years ago ) i had big issue with night sweats - flooding the bed wet with sweat. I still sweat at night and get very hot (only at night really) but not major major soaking wet just wet like you have been exercising and are coated in sweat.
I am forgetful - but this also been going on for years and years bad memory - it is getting worse - started with stuff like forgetting where car is in supermarket, but now I forget if we have been places (we love going hiking and plan walks and I often cant remember we have been to a place when we get there)
Recent things that make me think i might be starting the perimenopausal stuff -
-periods more irregular with longer ones, then bigger gaps.
- had a wierd fluttering in lower left abdomen and googling says it could be gas or menopause stuff (not pregnant)
- embarrasingly i have been leaking urine a bit - started a tiny bit sometimes in day but the last few days i have woke up in the morning and found a trickle down my leg and wetness around the area. I have been getting up everytime i wake up in the night and going to the toilet to avoid this
I have been avoiding husband touching me in the morning incase i am wet and it is urine...
- waking up loads at night
- being very cross and stressy and narky
This is combined with husband starting a job with various differnent shifts a few months ago - so dont see him sometmes on evenings and weekends, and we always used to see each other every evenign and weekend. we always did stuff together and i am a bit of a try and please him and do what he wants and am lost as to what to do when on my own!!
(sad I know) I end up wasting time on my phone and just drinking...
I am fed up and bored and fed up at work with some stressful stuff (work in sales so always the stress of will i hit target- i am competitive so like sales job, but it in its very nature can be an emotional rollercoaster) the stressful stuff at work is partly the market we sell to being a bit down, and also a colleague who majorly gets to me as they dont pull their weight but are favoured by line manager.
anyway - my vent is here.
If anyone wants to give any input great.
probably other stuff i forgot - but will put info on later if i remember.
i stopped smoking in summer - so yay me, but i avoid going to doctor too because i have had a coil in since youngest now 17 was born and am too scared to have it out and a new one in. - i am an avoider - head in the sand - by nature