Huge age gap

[Roxie1]

Hi everyone.
I thought this maybe the best place to get some help and support.
I’m a mum of two young ladies, eldest is 20 yrs and my youngest has just turned 19 this week. (This makes me feel old)
I’m turning 40 in August but feel that I have hit a bit of a crossroads in my life. I have been having some tests done recently due to a cyst on my ovary, thankfully this has gone down on its own, I have suffered with endometriosis for many years but was still able to conceive. My consultant has now decided that he would like to try me on a treatment which will put me on the menopause. This has left me laying awake at night, my mind is racing and to top it off, I’m extremely broody.
This is my dilemma, is the age gap just too big with my girls? Will they hate me if I have another baby? I really don’t think they will be pleased. Am I just having a mid life crisis? 😩 am I being selfish to my girls?
My husband would be over the moon, he has wanted another baby for a long time now. I can’t get it out of my head and I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to start any treatment until I am absolutely sure I don’t want any more children. Please help!

[May17th]

Hi OP I wouldn’t have another if I was you. I couldn’t imagine starting again!

I’m interested in what you decided though. I think you may have posted in the wrong section.

Bumping for you @Roxie1

[Doona]

For the last 18 years, you could have had another child, but you didn't, is that right? Do the reasons why not still apply or has something changed?

[HollowTalk]

I think it's perfectly natural to have that urge to have another child when you know your time is limited, but it's really irrational, isn't it? You've had twenty years of hard work, bringing up your children. Do you really want to go through it all again?