Hi, I'm new to mumsnet, not sure this is in the right place so please advise if you feel it would be better placed elsewhere .
I live alone with my 2 children and am due to give birth any day now to my third. Baby's dad lives approx 200 miles away and due to an impending court appearence and meeting with the probation service for pre sentencing report a referral has been made to social services to assess his suitability to be around me and the kids.
Currently I have been advised via my midwife that he is not allowed to be present for the birth or have any physical contact with us until an assessment has been completeted. I have also been told that I must go into hospital to give birth (had planned a home birth but now apparently I am not allowed, even if I was able to have someone else as a birth partner other than baby's dad ) . That said I will be 'complying' with this 'advice' as I don't want to cause any unneccessary problems for me and the kids.
I would like to stress that he has never harmed, threatened or otherwise me or my kids and his 'crime' does not involve children or DV.
I have been advised that they will be contacting me shortly and to be blunt, I have no idea what to expect as I have never had any dealings with social services before. I would like to know what the normal process is from someone who has been through this before (positive as well as negative experiences would be good as I have been scaring myself half to death with some of the stories on here). I'm gutted as I have visions of them 'forbidding' our relationship and depriving our child of a father and feel very powerless at the moment .
Thanks x
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naturalbornflapper · 21/04/2010 11:20
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