Help me please to get some calm perspective on this.
My exH (in middle of divorce) seems to be still trying to control me through contact with the children.
My main concern is that, in the long term, I want him to have a good relationship with the kids - i.e. regularish stays overnight etc, phonecalls etc.
He states this evening when he called round that he refuses to discuss when the visits happen, unless DS (10) decides when he wants to stay over. We also have DD (3)
He called in and started raising his voice etc in front of the kids which was very upsetting and ds ran upstairs.
He says that whatever we need to discuss can be done through the solicitor which I think is madness when we are adults, and surely the main point is keeping the kids happy and stable.
He went away for the weekend saying he would phone the kids sunday eve, which he didn't.
It seems so childish and point scoring that I am beating my head against a brick wall.
Obviously I haven't told everything that's gone on, I don't want you to die of boredom, but I really feel that it is unfair to put pressure on a ten year old to decide when visits happen.
I know it sounds trivial, but it really is the tip of the iceberg and its only recently I've begun answering back, which he doesn't like.
We left him in the marital home at the end of last year, and it has been much happier away from him. Thanks for any advice. x
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Janestillhere · 16/03/2010 19:26
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