Got chatting to my friend this morning about when a single parent has a b/f, and he wants to stop the night and tbh, we are both confused as to the legislation surrounding the whole 'What constitutes as being in a relationship?' to the govt thing.
I mean, living together as man and wife where it will affect your benefit.
Hope I am making sense.
My friend was quizzed earlier this year, about her 'supposed' relationship with a man. Apparently, it has been noted that he takes her shopping once a week, and she spends a considerable amount of time with him. It was suggested by the jobcentre that they could be classed as being in a relationship as if they were man and wife because they did domestic things together, such as shopping. My friend pointed out that they were not in a relationship, and that this man was her neighbour. The jobcentre then pointed out that to go shopping together for groceries could be used as evidence of her 'relationship', and if she was in a relationship with someone who was spending a considerable amount of time in her home, that she perhaps wouldn't be entitled to full benefit.
Last year, another friend was asked to go to see a 'customer compliance officer' after it had been reported anonymously that she was living with a man.
At the appointment, she was told that partners/boyfriends are legally entitled to stay at the mother's home for 3 nights, without being classed as 'living together'.
When my friend asked the compliance officer to clarify what a 'night' was, the compliance officer didn't have a definitive answer, apart from to say that a night was construed as overnight.
The compliance officer also said that if a partner was to work nights, and only spend 3 nights a week at the mothers home, because he was working the other nights, there was no legislation to say either of them were defrauding the system, since the rules said nights.
Now my friends and I are left wondering what constitutes as living together as man and wife. Is a 'night' between certain hrs when the man does not leave the property?
What if a man was to visit until 1 or 2 am?
Is it down to the discretion or judgement of the compliance officer?
Is it when a man spends a considerable period of time at the woman's house? and if so, what is classed as a considerable time?
Is there any other indicators that suggest that a couple are living together, such as domestic chores like shopping are done together?
Sorry if this is a bit garbled, but being summoned by a persistent DD.
Any help or advice on the legislation would be appreciated.
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Friend got me thinking...confused about single parents and partners. Can anyone clarify?
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twigsblankets · 28/09/2009 18:39
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