I'm having a low day. Seem to have hit a depression. Feel caved in by my own fears. Need to let it out and ask for some advice.
My daughter is 19 months. Been going it totally alone and abroad since pregnancy. Father a waste of space.
I did meet someone when pregnant. It's been on an off 2 years. But it was always confined to my house and bedroom. A firy attraction with a man that has a shady existence plus zero affection and no wish to be committed. He never said one nice thing to me in 2 years and always critisises me. Maybe that's what I'm drawn to? It;s so messed up. Yet he a massive bond with my girl, which has drawn me in emotionally, as I get lost in the family feeling. He's been there since the start and is great with her. She adores him. But I don't want her thinking he's daddy. So I tried to end it so many times. I feel trapped by this thing I started with him. As he's the only guy I ever shared her with. And thats quite hard to walk away from. Sometimes being alone with her feels so incredibly lonely and that makes me so sad. I want what's best for her, but I also have needs! But dont want to be confined to a bedroom relationship forever either!
That's one issue I have. The other is that Im super paranoid of any man getting close to my girl for fear of abuse. I never left her alone with any man ever. Not even him. And I don't think I'd ever be able to trust any man in that way. So I feel I'm doomed to being single forever. How can I ever get over this feeling?
I hope someone hears me. I'm feeling really alone. And haven't seen him all weekend as I'm trying to end it again. I have a date lined up for friday, as I really want to try and move on from him. Even though I already feel the date is not my type. i just want to know what it's like to be appreciated again as self esteem is low.
Thanks!
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fear of men getting close to my daughter. Irrational??
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bellbottom · 27/09/2009 19:33
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