I have insisted that I don't need to have holidays from DS but that DS gets upset when his dad dumps him to go partying, dancing, in holidays or in work trips in the days/weekends he is supposed to spend some time with DS.
DS has told me that sometimes he is left with friends of the girlfriend so his dad and her can go out for the day, night and in a ocassion, I realised that he had arranged to leave DS for a full weekend with a friend of the gilfriend, while exh was going on holidays with her.
DS has a medical condition that needs extra attention, but what I have been told by mutual friends is that exh minimises the condition or doesn't inform whomever is caring for DS to ensure they agree to mind DS.
I am struggling with this, but recently he announced that when he is away, DS is to spend the contact day with his girlfriend. That she will be collecting from school and taking him back straight to school after the night or weekend.
I have insisted that if he can not see him, DS can stay with his mum. But exh insists that she will take care of him even if I don't want to.
I have said that I don't mind DS staying with her when he is married or living with her, but for the time being, she is to me just a friend and therefore not appropiate for her to take "parental" responsibilities with DS when his own mother can take care of him.
So... I can't get the message through. I'm particularly worried about the school time, when I wouldn't get a clue of who is DS spending the night /weekend with unless I wait at the school gates. I really worry about DS getting ill while his father is away and nobody managing to contact me as he will try to hide the fact that he is not caring for ds.
What can I do? Am I right not to allow the girlfriend to pick up DS? I have no guarantee whatsoever that his dad would be around unless he shows up to pick him up.
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So exh has told me that his girlfriend will be taking care of DS when he is away and unable to be there in the days he should be taking care of him...
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OrangeFish · 19/08/2009 23:50
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