So what do I tell my dd when she asks why she hasn't seen Daddy???

[notevenamousie]

Background: dd aged 2.8, XP that is on-again-off-again with contact, I do everything I can to facilitate it.

It's been 4 weeks.
It's 3 weeks til he says he is free enough to have her again (abroad with new GF at present).
DD finally asked tonight, "when am I going to see Daddy again? Why can't I see him soon?"
A lot of words for such a little one. I had got out of these questions before, because she was not so eloquent to voice them. I want them to have a good relationship. I am also angry and tired.

What do I say to her? My heart breaks for her, I love her so much.

[drlove8]

just tell her the truth, in a kind child friendly way.... that daddys abroad just now and he will see her when he gets back......

[cestlavielife]

yes the truth - "daddy's busy right now" "daddy's gone on holiday" .

or have her leave a voice message on his phone asking him directly.

[GypsyMoth]

smooth it over with her

but he needs a serious kick up his backside. believe me,its not good for kids this wishy washy behaviour with contact. fast forward to when she's at school. she'll be full of questions then.

[notevenamousie]

She was very sad and angry when I said daddy was on holiday and would see her soon. Poor little thing (I know other little ones deal with worse). I don't want to lie to her but it makes me more tempted to just distract.