I've posted a few times before about my situation and having a really terrible evening - can't stop crying as normal. The summer holidays are a week away and xh is completely refusing to agree to any kind of contact. That may have come out wrong - he wants contact but wants way too much. But even that's not straightforward because he says he wants increased contact but then cancels reguarly.
I'll start from the beginning. He drew up a summer rota which we then tweaked and I have a piece of paper with this written agreement on it. He then got a letter from my solicitor an in his normal fashion he wanted to punish me so he then said he didn't agree with the rota. He wanted me to put the weekends back in the normal pattern (which he himself requested that they change just over the summer). I agreed to this and changed it. He then threw this one out and said he wanted some Monday nights thrown in (which is our normal pattern). I agreed and changed the rota again. He turned this one down. He has written very clearly on a piece of paper that he wants to increase contact over the summer holidays so that he can pay me less maintenance. On this rota, he has ds for 22 nights and I have him 20 nights. He also has him for 2 solid weeks. I don't work during the holidays so naturally I have a few more days.
In amongst these negotiations about increased contact, he texts me to say that he is not having ds this Friday night. He has cancelled several Friday nights recently.
To top it all tonight, I get an e-mail from my solicitor telling me that these are teething problems (one and a half years) and that we both should come to some arrangement. I feel like screaming and feel like I'm going insane. Everything seems so surreal and mad. When I deal with him it's like having a brush with total madness. I get so twisted up inside and it messes with my head so badly that I don't know right from wrong.
I'm feeling really depressed and am on the verge of tears all the time.
What can I do - please help me I think I'm losing it.
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Please please in desperate need to support. Summer hols a week away and it's all a total mess
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ilovetrees · 09/07/2009 20:41
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