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NervousNutty Sat 27-Jun-09 14:42:30

Firstly if anyone objects to me moaning on (which people have in the past) here then tough. I have no one in real life I can speak to.

Having shitty time at the mo and it is starting to feel like too much to cope with.

My mum has just rung to tell me that as she walked into her block earlier, xp's neices boyfriend walked up behind her and said 'you are an ignorant pig, just like your daughter (me)'. This was because she didn't hold the door open for him.

Now I know who this man is to look at but have never spoken to him in my life, not because I am ignoant but because I have no reason to. He is part of xp's family and they are not nice people to know. I had nothing to do with them when we were together either.

What with that and having to put up with xp's gf looking at me like i am shit on her shoe every day it is just tooo much.

I feel like i am coming unravelled, keep crying and would quite honestly like to go to bed for a few months. They are making me hate living here and moving isn't an option.

That coupled with my kids currently hating me most of the time is making me miserable.

Vidanueva Sat 27-Jun-09 14:50:59

Ah, Nutty, life can be the pits and this guy´s comment wouldn´t get to you if you weren´t feeling low anyway.

So, take a step back and look again - he doesn´t know you, he only knows of you and therefore, what he thinks doesn´t count.

You can´t control your XP´s girlfriend, so don´t even go there - every time she is being evil, just smile to yourself, there is a reason your ex- is your ex-, so her life isn´t that great!

As for the kids, well, first plan and do something good for yourself - even a good dvd - and then, plan and do something good with the kids. Best moment today so far has been playing hide-and-seek. Saying that, my two are now killing each other!

Take care.

NervousNutty Sat 27-Jun-09 14:55:05

Thanks for the reply.

You are right, if i weren't already feeling shitty then i'd not care so much. He is a horrible person as is xp's gf, and I know I am pretty much a nice person in general, so am better than them.

Thankfully, I have family coming over later so that will take my mind off thigs, so long as I manage not to cry.

Should go carry on clearing up really.

Vidanueva Sat 27-Jun-09 15:24:40

No, never clean up if you can do anything else! Make cake, take a bath, plan revenge - I think many an evil plot up, just don´t carry them out.

Would it be so bad if you did cry when your family are over? Do they know how vulnerable you are feeling right now?

Have a good afternoon.

NervousNutty Sat 27-Jun-09 15:36:35

No they have no clue, I am a very good actress. I don't really want them to know. We get on but I'd just rather them think things are fine, they have their own stuff going on.

Have cleaned a bit and am doing no more now lol. Have sent the dd's out to play and ds is watching tv so he is happy for now.

tiredemma Sun 28-Jun-09 20:35:17

nutty- are you on AD's?

NervousNutty Mon 29-Jun-09 13:16:25

Sorry, meant to come back to this yesterday but spent all day swapping kids bedrooms over.

I'm not on ad's emma no.

Had a better day yesterday and today. No crying anyway lol.

Trying to sort out my diet, because I know having put weight on is making me feel down too.

bakerslovecakes Mon 29-Jun-09 14:49:22

I know how you feel, i used to feel like that all the time until one day i broke down in front of my entire family. It felt good just to let someone else know how i was feeling. I dont talk to them much how i feeling because they have their own stuff, its hard being a single parent and having no one to talk to, but i think thats part of the problem being on my own. I didnt mind at first it being me and my dd, but shes a teenager now and i thought i wouldve met someone by now maybe i have alot of issues to work through. I lost contact with my friends after a few years of my dd being born as they didnt have kids and i havent made any really close friends since then. When im feeling down i usually plan something nice for me and my dd to do in the week or weekend or i just give her a hug when she gets in from school that usually helps.

NervousNutty Sun 05-Jul-09 16:30:28

How long have you been single bakers ??

I am back to struggling again today and can't seem to pull myself back.

Not really sure what it is that has made me suddenly feel so shit.

I even nearly rang xp to see if he wanted a quickie earlier in the week. How stupid is that. I didn't do it but how sad that he was my only option.

moosh Mon 06-Jul-09 19:00:48

Sorry to hear you feel like that NN. I wish I had some positive stuff to say but my single life of 18 months has been full of highs and mostly lows. Got a good job after a long time searching and have just moved to a lovely area back to being near the kids school and family bla bla bla and my neighbours on one side are noisy with music and late nights. I've only been here a week and regretting it and have spent the last few nights in tears when the kids are in bed.
Anyway I'm not hyjacking your thread but just wanted you to know that its not a good feeling at all when you feel like you are constantly struggling.
God...think I need a night out and a drink !!I Hope things get better for you

bakerslovecakes Wed 08-Jul-09 18:31:00

Sorry to hear your finding things hard again NN. I've been single for 13 years (wow thats a really long time when you see it in writing) some of that time has been through choice like the first few years when i had my dd, the rest i just havent met anyone, i guess sitting at home every night doesnt help but i dont really have anyone to socialise with. This morning i ended up feeling really down, i spent ages doing job searches and found that i wasnt qualified for anything or had the skills or experience to apply for any of the jobs. Hope you start feeling better about things soon.

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