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babyface Sat 14-May-05 01:22:09

Hi there... single mum of 3 here (ages 9, 6 & 1),nearly 30 myself and split from ex-h for 15 mths. Just looking for some reassurance as Im starting to feel like I'll be single 4ever and not quite ready for a life of celebacy... any advice ?

Donbean Sat 14-May-05 08:39:22

bit quiet this morning, will bump this up so that hopefully you will get some replies.

juniorandjackie Sat 14-May-05 11:42:13

Hi there babyface, i am new to being a single mum (well single mum to be im 30 weeks pregnant)my ex partner left me for his ex wife. i am wondering myself if i will ever meet anybody because i will be a single parent, but loads of us mums do so dont worry to much you have plenty of time yet your only a baby yourself. Do you manage to get out much without your children i mean with friends?

Where abouts are you from?

tammybear Sat 14-May-05 12:36:01

do you get to go out much? do you have friends that you can go out with?

im a single mum myself, and although i dont want a relationship at the moment, i try to go out to meet new people when i can

weesaidie Sat 14-May-05 14:56:44

Hi babyface

I am also a single mum and have been kind of seeing someone recently. Unfortunately I am not really that into him and I can't see it going very far!

I sometimes wonder when I will 'fall in love' again but I never wonder if I will fall in love again! Too depressing!

I am sure all you (and me!) need is time, time to get out and meet people and eventually meet the right person!

I enjoy being on my own mostly but I would like to meet someone to settle down with at some point...

Basically, try not worry, I know loads of single mums meeting gorgeous guy stories, it happens a lot!

Muller Sat 14-May-05 15:00:16

Better to be single with the opportunities of meeting "the one" rather than stuck in a relationship going nowhere fast.... at least options are open this way.

Muller Sat 14-May-05 15:00:32

Better to be single with the opportunities of meeting "the one" rather than stuck in a relationship going nowhere fast.... at least options are open this way.

Muller Sat 14-May-05 15:01:02

Soz double clicked!

babyface Sat 14-May-05 16:34:04

Hi there, back again after helping at the schools cake & plant sale. Will b happy if I never see another cake !
I live in rural Ireland, surrounded by happily married friends so that does rub it in a bit tho I have a couple of single mom friends too to hit the town with occasionally.
I guess after a 9 yr relationship (we met when I was 19) its still such a big change to get used to... go on, give me some mom meets lovely guy stories & help cheer me up

QueenEagle Sat 14-May-05 16:43:51

Hiya babyface.

I was left on my own with three kids after being with xdh for 8 years. Then I spent 5 years as a lone parent. I was quite happy being on my own, doing my own thing, not answering to anyone and loved it. But then BANG I met a great bloke, he moved in after three months of seeing each other, he took on my 3 kids and we now have two of our own after being together now for nearly 4 years!

So, there you go - it can happen!!!

KateandtheGirls Sat 14-May-05 17:05:50

OK, babyface. Here's a story for you. I met my husband when I was 19 and he died when I was 29 (leaving me pregnant and with a 2 year old). Three and a half years later, as my life was starting to feel normal again, and I was happy as a single parent and couldn't imagine having a relationship, an old friend made his feelings for me clear and we have been seeing each other for 3 months now. He loves me, loves my kids, and I'm incredibley happy. I didn't think I was ready for it, didn't think I would have a relationship any time in the next few years. (If ever! I worried about being celibate for the rest of my life.)

In my opinion, you have to be comfortable with yourself and your life, and when you're least expecting it someone will come along. Good luck to you.

KateandtheGirls Sat 14-May-05 17:06:02

OK, babyface. Here's a story for you. I met my husband when I was 19 and he died when I was 29 (leaving me pregnant and with a 2 year old). Three and a half years later, as my life was starting to feel normal again, and I was happy as a single parent and couldn't imagine having a relationship, an old friend made his feelings for me clear and we have been seeing each other for 3 months now. He loves me, loves my kids, and I'm incredibley happy. I didn't think I was ready for it, didn't think I would have a relationship any time in the next few years. (If ever! I worried about being celibate for the rest of my life.)

In my opinion, you have to be comfortable with yourself and your life, and when you're least expecting it someone will come along. Good luck to you.

KateandtheGirls Sat 14-May-05 17:06:21

Oops. Sorry.

babyface Sat 14-May-05 17:11:59

Thanks girls, just what I needed to hear !

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