My XP was violent and abusive to me and put my daughter (who is now only 2 and a half) in so much danger that since Oct 07 he has only been allowed SUPERVISED access. (this included putting her on gas hob at 4 months old, slapping her, leaving her on top of a washing machine at 9 months and going outside, etc etc the list goes on!)
We are in the throws of a court case, which has already cost me 10k and my job as a stockbroker which I worked my arse off for for 8 years. He is under an order at mo to have supervised and final hearing due late this year. CAFCASS have reported that should he be left alone with her then there is a real risk that he will cause her serious physical harm. He has ADMITTED to every incident but claimed that they are ALL mistakes made by a new parent and that I am an over anxious mother (you try not getting anxious being made to watch your 4 month old DD on top of hob and not allowed to intervene)!
For 18 months I have tried to sort out finances as we jointly owned home and bank accounts etc and so far he refused saying he was happy for me to stay here til she was at school and i could get a new job etc etc..
Life moves on and I have a new DP. He moved in after XP tried to break in and drive me off road etc etc. I am now 29 week pg and since XP learned of this is demanding half house and £30k of ... wait for it.... compensation!!!!!!!!WTF FOR???? He used our JOINT savings to buy a nice 3 bed with conservatory OUT RIGHT!!! His sol sent letter this am saying he wants rent from me and my DP, he wants engagement ring back as I didnt marry him (the day he scalded me with coffee in my face was kind of a put off for the treck down the aisle) and £4k for furniture (which was mine in the first place?!?!?!)
I still have to see him weekly as I supervise visits between him and DD and guess what....... he ONLY wants whats best for her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am now refusing to answer any more letters from solicitors in respect of finance and he will have to take me and my DP to court. He has hundreds of thousands of pounds and I have £40 a week maintenance and my DP feeds us and pays all our bills otherwise we would be selling Big Issue!
How can he absorb themselves of ANY blame and assume the victim role when it is ALL his doing????? AAAARRRGGGGHHHH!!!! This is not good for my BP or my sanity!!!!!!
Encouragement needed if poss. Thanks
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Youve got to read it to believe it......... what a dick head!!!!
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Ryn · 29/05/2009 12:54
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