Need advice, would you mention this to your solicitor re child contact??

[hindingout]

My exp's father has sexually abused some girls when exp was very small. He went to prision for it and exp no longer sees him.

Exp was unfaithful duing our relationship and when I spoke to his mother about it she said his dad was exactly like that. She does not know that I know about his dad going to prision and about abusing the children.

I never thought exp would be like this, but he does seem to have issuse regarding sex. Anytime anything went wrong between us he started getting involved with other girls.

I'm not saying he would abuse our child, but i'm not sure if I should mention it to my solicitor anyway and get professional advice. In a way I feel like I am betraying him by telling people his family business but he betrayed my trust by sleeping with other people behind my back. And I am doing this to ensure my dd is safe.

[lostdad]

What would you have done regarding your dd where he was concerned while you were together?

[hindingout]

Nothing because I would have been around to see how he was with dd. And at the time I did not think he would be capable of doing something like that to dd. Not that I'm saying now that I think he is.

But I just feel to be on the safe side maybe I should mention it so I can get professional advice. It is mainly because of the way he seems to run off with other girls all the time that I am feeling maybe he has got some issues. But I do understand that being a cheater does not make you a pedofile.

[ilovemydogandMrObama]

It's only really an issue if your ex Partner is in contact with his dad, and your DD may be alone with him.

I'd mention it to solicitor so that a prohibited steps order can be drawn up in order to protect your DD.

But the fact that your ExP's dad was a paedophile doesnt mean that he is also, or will be.

[hindingout]

No ex p is not in contact with his dad, and if he ever was I would say dd is not allowed to see him.

I know that he is not his dad so but I just worry that if he is a cheater like his dad maybe he has more issues like him to..

[hindingout]

No ex p is not in contact with his dad, and if he ever was I would say dd is not allowed to see him.

I know that he is not his dad so but I just worry that if he is a cheater like his dad maybe he has more issues like him to..

[tiggerlovestobounce]

I wouldnt mention this. If the only reason you have to think that way is because of his fathers history then I think it would damage your credibility to raise it now.

[hindingout]

Damage my credibility with who?

The reason I think it may need to be mentioned is because I feel he has issues with sex and women, from what his mum says his dad was similar.

[tiggerlovestobounce]

Sorry, I think I misunderstood you, I thought that you were suggesting that as a result of his dads history that your exp may be more prone to abusing children himself.

[hindingout]

well i suppose I am going on the fact that his dad cheated on his mum and was a pedo. And exp has cheated on me, he has not shown any signs of being a pedo but how do you know what to look for? And I will not be around him when he is alone with dd.

[Tamarto]

I'm struggling to believe you are for real.

What good would talking to a solicitor do, they are not experts in child abuse

How long have you been split?

Seriously though, do people really think it's something that runs in the family, it didn't concern you when you were together.

[tiggerlovestobounce]

So are you saying that the fact that your exp father was a child abuser makes you concerned that your exp will become one too.
Also that you think this it likely enough to make you think that his contact with his children should be altered in some way?

[lostdad]

The more I think about this, the more I wonder if this is a serious post. If your dd was a ds, does that mean they could be suspected of this too?