I’ve been split up from my ex husband for nearly 3 years now , it was an abusive relationship and me and the kids literally did a midnight flit to stay with a relative 2 hours away until we got placed in the woman’s refuge. He didn’t take the kids initially and if he did he would become stressed and have them back within 24hours saying he wasn’t going to have them again . Must stress the abuse is aimed at me and not the kids although he isn’t mindful about what he says to me Infront of them . Fast forward a bit he has a new girlfriend and since he has been going with her the kids have being going every 2nd weekend. I was meeting him halfway for drop off and pick ups . I have recently stopped doing the meeting him halfway as I’m just not prepared to do it anymore as He is still from time to time abusive towards me , everything has to be his way or he kicks off. They are regularly late and I don’t mind cause I understand what it’s like travelling with kids but if I dare be ten mins late that’s an excuse to be abusive towards me . He will withhold money if doesn’t get his own way. There’s load of things I could mention but I would be here all day. I’m just not prepared to be reasonable and meet him halfway anymore because it just seems i still have to deal with the behaviour I left and then the kids are also withnessing this from time to time aswell . Since I’ve made him come pick them up and drop them off . He’s just been a nightmare because he’s not getting his own way . He’s been argumentative outside my house . I’m not really sure what it is I’m trying to ask but i just need to find a way for it all to stop because it’s not healthy for me or the kids and I don’t want to still he putting up with it. I wish I had taken more support while I was at the woman’s refuge and got things set in place properly
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