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quarantineishard Fri 17-Apr-20 19:04:29

For single parents who's child/children's dads are absent and show no interest in them. Do you update photos on social media for them to see i.e Facebook profile pictures and cover photos etc?. My child's dad is horrible and I feel like I don't even want to give him or his family the privilege of seeing photos of them. None of them bother with my DD. I have had a few friend requests of his family and I accepted one or 2 but nobody has spoke to me about DD and I feel it's just to snoop for him. Also parents not in my situation can also answer of course with what you think?.

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quarantineishard Fri 17-Apr-20 19:59:25

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PumpkinP Fri 17-Apr-20 20:00:29

I don’t have pics of my children on SM so I can’t help. It definitely sounds like they are just snooping so I would unfriend them!

Embracelife Fri 17-Apr-20 20:01:38

If they have no interest why bother?
If you are in contact with his relatives speak to them direct

TriangleBingoBongo Fri 17-Apr-20 20:02:49

I think you’re overthinking this. If they aren’t interested they won’t be interested in any photos either.

yatapina Fri 17-Apr-20 20:03:22

I don't use my kids pictures as profile/cover photos for security reasons but if I did I certainly wouldn't be updating them for anyone elses convenience!

If their Dad isn't interested then I wouldn't be sharing anything with him, if he asked or his family did then I would but I'd rather do so privately.

JeSuisPoulet Sat 18-Apr-20 06:33:09

OP, contrary to others on here, I do. DD's dad left when she was tiny and he went through a stage of saying he wanted to see her but long story short never did. He's a dick. HOWEVER... he has a mum, dad, 3 brothers and all of them didn't make the choice not to be part of dd's life. Yes, they could have contacted me. Yes he doesn't "deserve" my thoughts, but I do want to show them what she looks like. I want their kids to know they have a niece, for her grandma to know what her first grandchild looks like.

I can't be arsed with point scoring - they've not been part of our lives for nearly a decade now, so what's the point? Mind you a lot of my friends don't get it either, so it's really your personal choice. FWIW I prob only do 1 public post every year.

unicornsarereal72 Sat 18-Apr-20 06:55:36

My ex has little to do with the kids. And has paid no child support for nearly 2 years now. I have as little to do with him as possible and blocked him on social media as I'm not Interested in his social life. When I'm struggling to buy school shoes.

His family have remained involved and supportive so I have kept contact with them because he has not facilitated the children's relationship with them. And they would miss out if I didn't.

In your situation I wouldn't bother.

Stronger76 Sat 18-Apr-20 10:37:22

My ex is a knob and sees the kids twice a year, maximum. I have a very stealthy fb account for professional reasons (you can't add me or see anything other than my profile picture and the background one) but when I changed my profile pic to a quote - something about mums having to take the slack for rubbish dads - he was all over it in days.

I dont give him the satisfaction of getting 3rd hand pics of his kids. They're ready and waiting to see him when he can be bothered.

Lolly34h Sat 18-Apr-20 10:39:47

My ex denied he was my child's father. Still does. His nan and aunt see my child at birthdays and Christmas almost like an obligation they believe he's my child's father. As for social media I don't put pics of her face on there at all. Sometimes if I take a picture it's normally the back of her so if we go for a walk or something then I'll put them on but only showing the back of her

quarantineishard Sat 18-Apr-20 15:03:13

Thank you. I don't think I will be putting any more up. If he or his family wants to see her they can make the effort to see her in person not look at photos on Facebook and probably screenshot them to show to others as if they are involved. After all they only stay 15 mins up the road.

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Starlightstarbright1 Sat 18-Apr-20 15:08:49

No not as profile picture.

Marley040783 Sat 18-Apr-20 18:29:39

Put as many pictures as you want on if you want to , set your Facebook to private and use the limit past posts option on your fb so nobody other then who is on your friends list can see your page or anything you upload.

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