My daughter's dad left 4 years ago, and moved 200 miles away. From then he's been regularly seeing our daughter every other weekend, using his parents house as a base (they lived around the corner). He tells the CMS that his cost of contact includes £300 month paid to his parents for this.
This weekend he sat our daughter (11) down and told her that from after Christmas onwards, she will be traveling to see him, and I will be making half the journey.
I've contacted him and asked him not to talk to our daughter about unagreed changes to contact arrangements, and not to use her as a messenger.
He's blown up because I've said I'm not sure 8 hour round trips are fair on our daughter every other weekend, and that I simply don't have the capacity to make half the journey that frequently. Living so far away is completely his choice. I work full time and suffer from migraines when over stressed.
He's now contacting our daughter and asking her to tell me she wants to go up there every other weekend (she tells me she doesn't want that but holidays are fine for that kind of journey).
He's making all kinds of statements about how I'd be prepared to travel to visit friends and family on my free weekends, and so that demonstrates I can drive for hours at the weekend if I want to. That if I can work from home to allow viewings for a house I'm court ordered to sell, then why can't I get time off to take our daughter half way to his. Apparently we use a specific app for contact because I've blocked contact in the past (that's not true, I got fed up with him keep changing arrangements and so I told him the only contact he could have was contact arranged through the app).
Finally, he's threatening CAFCASS.
There's a history of him bullying me, and I think he's doing it now. I'm quite literally shaking and imagining that for the next 7 years I'm going to be spending the only breathing space I have driving up and down the M1.
Is there anything unreasonable about my position that his demands are unfair and I can't facilitate contact like this so regularly, but would be happy to arrange more contact in the school holidays? Surely if he was spending £300/month with his parents, he could stretch to staying in a hotel so he can have all day Saturday contact once in a while?
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Ex moved 200 miles away and now insists I do half the journey
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GeekyGirl42 · 09/12/2019 20:09
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