Baby's father and birthday

[ploddingalongx]

Is it just me or does anyone else think this is selfish? My DD 1st birthday is coming up next week and today her father was supposed to have contact after not seeing her for 5 weeks ( making excuses about being ill etc) . He messaged me earlier asking if I could meet him with her at a local toy store so he could buy her a birthday present. He spent a measly £15. I know it's not all about money but the point in making is after that he went into another shop and couldn't find anything else 🙄 , then said I should take her home as it was too cold. He literally spent 30 mins with her ( although it was actually pushing her in a buggy and no interaction ). Does anyone else think that he should have took time to do this on a day that wasn't his contact day with her??? If I said that to him he'd say he didn't do anything wrong. To top that off that will be him until his hour or 2 he spends with her next weekend ( if he shows up) as he can never make any more time for her and he can't visit on her birthday because of work . Can't even go out his way to go shopping for her birthday but does it the day he sees her because that's when he will be in town anyway. Gave the present to me so no thought into wrapping or a card etc , then went away as quick as he could.

[unicornsarereal72]

Just let him slip out of her life. He is only going to keep letting her down. I know it is harsh. But you are going to spend your life trying to make him step up as a parent and stressing yourself out.

[ploddingalongx]

@unicornsarereal72 thanks for your comment, that would probably be for the best to be honest.

[carly2803]

i agree with unicorns, stop pushing the contact he will bugger off

some men are not worthy of being dad's, this man is one!

not the worst thing to be without a father!

[kitk]

Agree with the PPs!

[Onekidnoclue]

Totally agree. Lone parents are heroes. It’s a bloody difficult job raising a small person. Don’t make yourself responsible for him too. X

[Anyoed]

I agree just stop asking him to be part of things and like my sons dad he probably won't bother to make the effort. Less stress for u and ur child will be better if in the future. My son has to half sisters from his dad who are tenagers and they wish there mum had done this . They make it very clear the broken promises and hurt are not worth it. Sorry. But u can't push a person to be a good parent