I’m a lone parent to 4 (totally lone so ex is absent and has no involvement and hasn’t done in around 3 years.) I have 4 children oldest 8 youngest 2, I do it all alone as I have no family support. The only family I have are my sister and dad, and my dad doesn’t help as he is disabled and my sister would help in an absolute emergency, think hospital that kind of thing. I’ve not spent a night away from them in over 3 years. The only break I get is when the older 3 are at school but I’m still home with the youngest. That’s it.
I’m exhausted and don’t know how I’m surviving tbh, but I am just surviving that’s all. Life is an horrendous struggle and every day feels like a battle. My oldest has autism and the second oldest is awaiting an assessment, so I’m at home and receive carers allowance. I get constant phone calls from the school regarding my daughters behaviour and have to pick her up at the drop of a hat. I’ve had 3 calls in one week before! At one point she was on a reduced time able and I had to pick her up at 12.30. This meant taking them all down to the school, coming home returning to the school at 12.30 and then back to the school at 3.30 for the other two. All with a toddler in tow. I receive no maintenance as ex doesn’t work or claim benefits! That means we just get by. Anyway I’m not working due to all of this and don’t think it’s even possible with the constant phone calls from the school and zero help, but according to my sister I should be working and none of that is an “excuse” not to work. She said working isn’t a choice and called people who don’t work “scroungers” she made out like I was just being lazy, and will say stuff like “I know someone with 10 kids, partner died, no family and all the kids have disabilities yet she still works!” Ok not that exact thing but along those lines! Would anyone else find this upsetting? I haven’t spoken to her since because quite frankly I don’t need the judgement.
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PumpkinP · 27/11/2019 18:14
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