I've posted a couple of times before. We have 50/50 residency with our daughter. I agreed to this (and had some useful advice on here before about it).
My ex has always done little things to undermine me and make me feel like I am not needed. So I am not sure if I am being a bit sensitive. Things like telling our daughter he is taking her on holiday for her birthday and just booking it and then doing the same thing on her birthday the following year. Or turning up and collecting her from school when I am due to collect her an hour later from after school club. Or uninviting all my friend's children for her birthday party. This was all before our new agreement previously she was with me during the week and him most weekends.
Anyway, he bought her a phone. I have never taken the phone off but I admit I am not great at remembering to charge it (she is 7). Especially if we don't get home until 1730 then have dinner then are out to school at 0800 the next day. So if it's not charged he gets angry and messages me asking for it to be charged and saying I am stopping his only line of communication with his daughter. She isn't particularly interested in the phone. But if I say go and text Daddy she will.
However, he texts her multiple times everyday. His partner also texts everyday. I feel a bit like this is intruding on the time she is with me. Once he starts texting he doesn't stop. I also feel pressure to have the phone charged and remember to take it with us whenever we go out.
I feel this is a bit much. I don't do the same when she is with him. In fact last weekend her phone wasn't charged when she was with him. Would I be unreasonable to say I would prefer to have one scheduled call a week? We have a 2: 5: 5: 2 pattern so it is never more than 5 days we don't see each her. I don't feel the need to text and phone everyday.
Or am I just being oversensitive?
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motheroreily · 15/11/2019 10:52
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