A fathers right if he's not on the birth certificate?

[MummyAndSon17]

Hi I'm writing this as I'm a bit concerned of my ds biological dad.
I stopped him from seeing and having contact with my son quite a while ago now because he was very verbally abusive towards me and always wanted to have control over every situation that I was involved in. He was also drinking during the day around my son which was the step too far for me and that was where I drew the line.

Since then I've had multiple people send me screenshots of conversations they've had with him and things He's posted on social media calling me vile names, lying about the reasons why I stopped him having contact and threatening me and threatening to turn up at my door.

Obviously I'm very concerned for my safety but I don't want to tell any family or friends because this is going to anger them and make the situation so much more stressful for me. Just to add aswell that I've previously filled a report to the police because he had threatened to kill me on 2 separate occasions but I made it clear then that I just wanted someone of authority to teach him that he can't and won't talk to me like that. He is not on ds birth certificate because he was with his girlfriend at her house at the time of me making the appointment and lied and said he might be working that day.
My question is what can I do to protect myself, family and my ds. Also could he take me to court or does he have any rights even though I feel like my reasons are valid and he's not on the birth certificate.

Thank you

[Nightwatch999]

If he is the father he has as much right as you to see his child no matter your version or his version of events.

If he is being abusive make sure you
keep it as proof and report to the Police. You can seek legal advice and go get a Non Mol Order at court.

He himself can apply to court for a Contact Order to see his child, and can apply to go on the Birth Certificate.

Just because you do not approve on his lifestyle does not mean you can stop any contact with him and his child. The Courts do not approve of that.

[Marthymoomar]

Currently he does not have PR so you do not need to facilitate contact. This may however escalate his behaviours so it is important to tell someone, even if that’s women’s aid so they can help coordinate some measures to increase security of your home.

Threats to kill are serious and your primary responsibility is to safeguard your child. This isn’t a matter of ‘lifestyle choices’ as suggested previously - you have stated two significant risk factors: domestic abuse and alcohol misuse. Hold your position of no contact (maybe facilitate some indirect letter contact via a third party if you must) he can take this to court and they will need to apply Regulation 12j (please look this up) to any decision they make. The domestic abuse concerns means a safeguarding assessment (s.7 report) needs to be completed before any contact could be established. Do not be coerced into facilitating contact until an assessment has been completed and you are satisfied that there are safeguards in place to facilitate contact safely. The Court WILL NOT criticise you for this.