Hello there, I haven’t sought any advice about my situation like this before so bare with me.
I was with my now former partner for nearly six years & we have a 2 year old together. Former partner was diagnosed with depression last September, which led to a very difficult few months. He ended our relationship in February this year, stating he didn’t love me anymore but this did come as a big shock, despite the difficulties we faced with his mental health in the months before. He ended up seeking treatment for suicidal thoughts as he had threatened to end his life (which led to me having to stay with him for a very difficult 24 hours whilst the local NHS trust found him a bed in a unit). It then transpired 3 days later that he was in love with a work colleague and they were going to make a go of things.
Fast forward to now (as I won’t bore you with too many details); my former partner has moved back to his relatives 100 miles away. He has had zero contact with our son since the day he ended our relationship (so nearly 4 months). For a period I would send pictures and updates via text, which he would tend to give very brief responses to. 2 weeks ago, I contacted him with a photograph of our son taken at his preschool & asked if he would like me to send him a copy: zero response.
I am hurt that he won’t contact me to ask how our son is but am trying to brush past the hurt he’s caused me. I have occasional contact with my in laws, who state he isn’t ‘unwell’ at this time, he just can’t be bothered to speak to me.
My son asks about daddy occasionally and when we are out, if he sees a man baring any resemblance to him, he will start shouting daddy; this breaks my heart.
Has anybody else been through a separation where mental health is an element; if so, what are your experiences of that parent having contact with your child? I feel at a loss as I feel angry and upset that he would appear not to bother about our son but I also feel helpless as I obviously still care about him and hope that his mental health isn’t worsening.
Any comments or advice would be greatly appreciated, particularly with Father’s Day approaching as I really don’t know what to do for the best anymore. I don’t see contacting him to almost force him to be interested in our sons life but then I don’t want to come across as the ex that’s creating a barrier.
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Mummyofone123 · 20/05/2018 18:40
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