I currently have a 13 week old daughter and I broke up with her father before I found out I was pregnant. I want him to be a part of her life, but he is still insistent that we will be together as a family one day despite me assuring him things are over. He has it in his head that he should have the right to see her every single day and I do let him see her at least 4 times a week, including his days off so that he can spend an entire day with her and still this does not seem good enough for him. His parents are also very pushy and see her every other weekend and it’s just getting suffocating. I feel as though I am stuck in a relationship with him as his family keep pushing for us to be together and his mum especially is very over bearing and would visit every weekend if I did not make excuses that I was not around. I don’t feel as though I get enough time with my own family or to see my friends, as he makes it seem like I should evolve my life around his demands. I wouldn’t mind him being around so much if he helped out but all he does is take her for 5 minutes maximum then give her back when he’s bored or she cries and then sits on his phone. He is also very lazy and disrespectful, for example he will leave the house in a mess and make food and not clean up after. Today he got annoyed that dd needed a nap because he had to leave for work in half an hour and wouldn’t get to see her anymore and because of this he purposefully made as much noise as he could stomping around the house before slamming the front door as he left, waking her. I just feel as though he is wearing me down because if I give him an inch he takes a mile and is always wanting more. He has always been spoilt growing up and still is and does not take responsibility for anything. He is very manipulative so makes me feel like I’m being crazy when I say how lucky he has it. I just don’t know how to set boundaries without him and his family taking me to court as that is something I know they would do if I did not keep them sweet. I just really need advice on how often I have to let him visit as having such a negative and unhelpful person around is really consuming me.
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