I need a bit of advice if anyone can help.
My ex and I broke up 4 years ago, we have a 8year old daughter and 4 year old son. Access has always been every other weekend and a couple of dinners/nights in the week. I’ve never received money and get threatened with court (says he will go for 50/50 access), our children don’t like going anyway as they say it’s boring and they miss home but I always take them and pick up and encourage them to go.
I’m a part time teacher so have school holidays off, school holidays are mostly split as long as ex has sorted out his work holiday, apart from the summer holidays but he has every weekend instead as well as his week etc.
Recently my ex has started saying that his parents and siblings should get a night on my weekend to have our children overnight. Our children see my family on my weekend and I never encroach on exes weekend unless it’s birthdays. I have said that on normal weekends during term time and school holidays where the access is even rly split then time and sleep overs with his family should be done in his time. I’ve always said that if I end up with more time in the holidays then I’m happy for them to go extra time etc. Apparently because I have a couple more evenings during the week any extra contact with his family should be coming out of my time, though during the week it is more school and bed routine (hardly quality time to do stuff like at the weekend).
I’ve tried compromising with the school holidays etc but I think if it’s evenly split then it’s up to us to sort out time with extended family. If I refuse extra time on my weekends with his family I get threats of court so I end up losing my weekend or most of it.
Please don’t just say to go to court etc it’s not an option and I’m trying to avoid it as much as possible. I would just really like what other people think.
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Kaykay1234 · 24/10/2017 19:50
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