Need some advice!(4 Posts)
The terrible two's have hit our house! He started nursery a few week ago and since he has he won't listen to me, it's like all the rules have gone out of the window. He hates to be in his pram and will scream the whole time but if I let him walk he runs away. By tea time I feel like I'm ready for a nervous breakdown and feel like I am constantly shouting at him and feel like a horrible parent. I just don't know what else I can do about his behaviour??
Perseverance...my two almost had broken wrists from constantly holding onto them refusing to let go and constantly putting them back into the pram when they disobeyedo. .coupled with constant 'mummy says no'...
Pick your battles however and concentrate on one or two things at a time...praise when they do it correctly..
I could have written this myself! I have a very strong willed 2 year old who frequently has tantrums if he doesn't get his own way! Until recently I think I have in to him for an easy life but I've soon realised it isn't an 'easy life' so I've got more firm!
I was at boiling point yesterday and lost it. I felt like the worst parent ever. My 6 year old is a good boy but I ended up shouting at him for something very minor. Again I felt awful.
Try and find quality time for the 2 of you where he has your full attention. Praise him where praise is due. Talk to him like he's a grown up and try and reason with him. If it doesn't work tell him the reason why he can't do whatever and continue about your day. I've started ignoring trantrums which I'm guessing are attention seeking. I also use to naughty step and use the 2 mins to try and calm myself.
Remember you're not alone x
I did a course as part of my job about 2 year olds.
The most important thing to realise is you will not reason with them. In there mind there ideas of how things should be are completely reasonable ( no matter how unreasonable ) and they really can't comprehend if they think it is a good idea that you wouldn't.
Visual aids are your guide here..Egg timers ..Whensand has ran out time to put toys away/ get coat on...etc. When this song finishes time to get lunch..
Also put him in reigns.. They are lifesaving for runners. If he hates them pop them on in the house too without back strap they get used to them very quickly..Walk with empty pushchair if he keeps pulling on reigns in the pushchair.
Temper tantrums.. Distraction..
Look for things to praise.. Ignore what behaviours you can once he knows he can't do it. At this age attention is attention they don't understand positive and negative attention.
Also make sure you find time to have some fun together whether it is going swimming, painting at home.
I would say also if you get time to recharge your batteries take it..
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