Sad on holiday

[Caramelbutthorn]

I'm on holiday with my ds and mother. Whilst around the pool i see so many dads playing with their children and it makes me so sad that my son doesn't have this and will never have it. My ds hasn't yet realised that he's missing out so currently it's just my issue but it still hurts and makes me sad.

Sorry, I just wanted to moan...

[Caramelbutthorn]

I forgot to say, his dad is not in my ds's life - his choice

[Startoftheyear2017]

[danTDM]

I understand

[Decsbetterhalf]

Wow! I could have typed this myself this eve.

We go home on Sat. But all week this is what I have thought and I've made my mind up I can't put myself through it again :(

My mother is staying on another week for a break as she's found DS hard work.

Same as you, DS father NC ever.

But listen .... we rock!!!

[Decsbetterhalf]

Oh and (no disrespect at all MN as I luffs you) but half the threads tonight are people moaning about their OH's

[shivermytimbers]

So sorry you're feeling bad on holiday. I just wanted to say that I was in your position years ago when my two eldest were small (no contact with their dad since they were tiny). I used to feel really cut up that they were missing out but, although in some ways they were, we managed to make a fantastic bunch of family memories between the 3 of us.
Now they are adults and we have a great laugh remembering our cheap and cheerful high days and holidays.
I wish that, at the time, I'd realised that I was doing a good job and giving them a happy childhood, even though we weren't a traditional family unit.
You can't change everything for your son to make his dad part of his life but you can do a bloody good job on your own. Trust me!
Give yourself credit for sorting out a lovely holiday for him and enjoy yourself xx

[Caramelbutthorn]

Thank you ladies :)
It's especially sad as he's made friends with a girl and her brother and he had to watch the dad messing round with his children and my ds desperately wanted to join in. They include him occasionally but it's not the same

[Caramelbutthorn]

@decs - where are you on holiday?

[catcatcatcat]

I did this lots before I met now DP just holidaying with my DD. I had a few twinges of what you're saying - but then I saw so many arguments, tense words, storming off, mum's doing all the work camping etc. I was then grateful for the calm & relaxed holiday we had. Hope it gets better OP xx

[Decsbetterhalf]

In Mallorca

[Decsbetterhalf]

Totally agree with @catcatcatcat

[ohamIreally]

He's not missing out lovely - I understand you feel like this but his dad's an idiot so he's better off without. Focus on your relationship with your DS and the lovely memories you are making

[Caramelbutthorn]

That's so true @cat! I forgot about that bit!

I'm in menorca @decs :)

[shivermytimbers]

See - you're already doing better than I did in your situation! We spent most of our holidays in damp campsites in Norfolk