Hi all,
I don't know how usual it is for a father to post here, but I figured this might be a great place for advice never the less.
I'm a 29 year old father of the worlds most beautiful 11 month old boy. My ex girlfriend has allowed for me to visit our son twice a week, for 2-3 hours a time since he was born. At around 6 months, I approached my ex and asked her if she would consider allowing me to take our son home with me for my visits. She was not happy that I had asked and basically told me things will stay as she says they will until she decides it's time.
This has been the pattern of how things have gone since that point. I've made a point to ask each month if she has changed her mind and she still hasn't. She has also returned to work now and refused to let me care for our son during these times, stating that her mother will be the primary carer.
I should mention that I also arranged for us to attend mediation, met with a mediator and waited patiently to hear back from my ex's visit. I was informed that my ex had attended the preliminary appointment, but refused to go again as the mediator's attitude wasn't to her liking. She then refused when I asked her if she'd like for me to set up a new mediation appointment.
I won't hide the fact that we have had our ups and downs with each others. I've even tried to rekindle the relationship for our son's sake and failed.
So now, I'm left with applying to the courts to get a legal custody and visitation agreement put in place.
The whole thing has stressed me to no end, I feel drained with the constant uphill battle I'm having with her and the stress that It's causing my family. I feel as if I have and am still being disrespected as a parent and it feels as though my ex doesn't actually see me as equal parts parent. I have tried everything to be supportive, I have kept it very amicable and even bent myself over a barrel to make certain situations go smoother.
My question is (I finally got to the subject at hand) I want to apply for 50/50 custody of our child. I want to have the best chance I can possible have to be a good father and have a hand in the development of our son. Has any other fathers or mothers on here had any experience with this kind of situation? Any advice on what needs to be done or information I need to have would be hugely beneficial to me.
Thank you all.
A concerned parent.
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BearedDad · 05/04/2017 20:25
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