Hi Ladies,
Firstly thank you for reading.. This is my first post so please bear with me.
So I'm 29 met oh when I was 24.. during a very difficult time mother was dying of terminal cancer, during which time oh was incredibly supportive and my family loved him to pieces for it.. she passed in April 12 and I fell pregnant in Nov 13.. during the time leading up to pregnancy he had his usual man moments that drove me up the wall but just got on with it as we all have differences time to time.. when I fell pregnant we had an issue with his family seeing stuff in our personal pregnancy notes and they basically had a row with us, his sister even accused us of mugging her off for not telling her how our due dates had changed.. me being me I made a point of moving out and staying with family for a good few months until our flat was ready to move in to as we had quickly bought on finding out I was pregnant.. he stayed with his family when I moved out saying he didn't want to disturb my family with his early wake up calls... erm bs excuse in my eyes.. and to me he chose his families side over mine even after all the arguments they had with us.. later down the line in an attempt to get our flat ready for baby I had asked him to take some rather heavy boxes to the place so I could get in and get some cleaning done.. instead he chose to go golf and play in a competition. so I went to the club he was playing at picked up the boxes and got them all up to our 3rd floor flat myself.. and then cleaned. Needles to say I was pissed off at him and we had a massive row. He dragged his feet with the diy and kept procrastinating to the point where the jobs still wernt done when we had later sold the flat due to not being able to afford it on his wage alone.. when baby did arrive we barely had any food in the cupboards but he was still happy to fork out £180 a month on a golf club membership.. and within 3 months of us living in there properly he sat me down and told me he simply could not afford the mortgage.. so we moved back in with the mil.. since moving in we have had several big arguments one where ids was one years old and I had begun working and was pretty tired he tried saying a was lazy and all I did was sit on my arse all day when I was with ds.. so I completely flipped and battered him.. not proud but that was below the belt.. we argue over money.. when we had got married in 2016 we was lucky to get a fair sum of money as gifts and he blew £1000 within a month with barely an explanation as to what he had spent it on.. he is lazy and will say he will do something and doesn't do it... he gets incredibly angry and defensive in front of ds and will shout and punch doors and walls.. I am also working 5 nights per week where I won't get in till 12 midnight and I'll be up with ds in the day and until recently he still felt I wasn't the one pulling my weight.. and would get in a huff if the living room was a mess with his toys.. a few days ago I let loose and we was to the point of breaking up and he says (after many times promising) that he will change.. but in all honesty I have no more love for him.. he has completely broken me and I don't think there is any getting back.. I am terrified of the thought of bringing up do as a single parent but I may as well be with the shit that he puts me through.. he might not be violent or a drinker but he is quite possibly the most selfish person I have ever known and he acts like a Molly coddled boy.. I want a man who just gets on with things much like I do. The fact I am working nights impacts on mine and ds relationship as I have much less energy and I am always trying to be so careful to put aside money every month due to oh being a bit reckless with his at times..I don't do as much with ds as I would like to. In a nutshell I'm tired and bloody miserable and any advice about moving out and moving on with my life would be greatly appreciated xxx
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Dizzy87 · 31/01/2017 18:15
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