Me and ex have been split up for 7 years after he left me for another woman. We have both remarried and I have other DC. We don't have any issues with each other's partners or each other but it's ex's mother. I've avoided her for several years. She was a vile vindictive witch who made me life hell during my pregnancy, demanded i had an abortion, demanded he leave me when pregnant. She booked a holiday over when I had DS but when she returned she tried to control when she had him,undermined me as a mother and finally succeeded in encouraging ex to leave, he literally took everything whilst we were left with nothing. This woman try to break me as a person to the point she wanted to take my child away she had a nursery set up. I went down to 7 stone. I was severely depressed for about a year before I found happiness with DH. Thankfully I have amazing parents who stepped in and removed me from the situation. I've been NC with her for 6 years.
I'm anxious as its my DS Holy communion soon and she will be there. I know I have to suck it up but it annoys me that she's there after her disgusting behaviour she's the type to whisper to DS or slag off DH and DC. I don't want her near me or my other DC. Her ex husband is attending and his wife who I get on extremely well so I know i'l have support aswell as my DH and my family.
I know it sounds silly it was so long ago but she was excately like one of those nightmare MILs many people talk about. I guess it just brings back all those horrible memories from a difficult time in my life.
You ll be absolutely fine. You are a strong person and you have a lovely family who loves and supports you. You won. She sounds like a woman with issues. Not your concern, thankfully she is not in your life anymore. You are above all that now. I would be polite to her ( greeting her and all that) but keeping it short, she doesn't deserve your time. Enjoy the day.