And told me he's going to give up work so I get nothing.
We've been split for 2 years - I left him due to EA and complete lack of support. We have 2DC aged 3 and 4 and he has them 2 weekends per month. He can't drive so I do all the dropping off and picking up.
He paid nothing towards them for the first 12 months because I left him and I didn't pursue it because I was wracked with guilt for splitting up the family (that's what he kept telling me), then ÂŁ150 a month, then decided he couldn't afford that so ÂŁ100 and then in December told me he couldn't afford to pay anything for december or January because the kids xmas presents cost too much. I quietly and calmly rang CMO and he got the letter this week. He's gone mad, sending me abusive texts calling me all the names you can think of, accusing me of wanting the money for my social life (I don't have one) and now he's telling me that he's going to quit his job and move back to where he's from (2 hours away) so he 'won't be able to have the kids for me' like he's doing me a favour by having his children!!!!!!
CMO have calculated his payments at ÂŁ300 so a lot more than he was paying and he says he can't afford to live now but he is still living in the 3 bed detached house in a lovely area that we lived in together as a family (rented) and he could be living in a smaller house which would cost him ÂŁ200 a month less like mine does - we all sleep in the same room! I don't need his money so I've set up an account for the kids for it to go into there and he's gone mad about that saying it's ridiculous.
I'm so run down and tired from all the fighting with him, we haven't been together for 2 years and I'm still dealing with his crap. I just feel like withdrawing the claim so he's gets off my back. The kids don't want for anything because I work 2 jobs to provide (topped up by tax credits and a small amount of housing benefit) so if he didn't pay I wouldn't care but what about when they get older and want expensive electrical or holidays; I can't stretch that far.
Sorry it's long, rant over. I just need some support I guess, my friend thinks I'm crazy and that I shouldn't drop the claim. I'm so angry that he doesn't think his kids deserve it but that's him, only thinks of himself.
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grounddown · 10/01/2016 10:01
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