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!!!!!!I really need urgent help please desperately!!!!!!

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ouija1 Sun 06-Dec-15 14:50:05

I'm a single mum of two and have chronic long term disabilities sensory and physical. I don't know what to do. My youngest daughter is having therapy for post traumatic stress and suicidal thoughts. i lost both parents and my nan close together in traumatic circumstances and since then everything has gone downhill. I try so hard but due to my health i can't work full time any more and am in hospital regularly for treatment. I can't pay my bills and am still waiting for decisions on benefits. I've been told it could take weeks and to go to a food bank. Even if i go to a food bank i can't cook it without gas and electric. I've sold most of my belongings to make ends meets and pay debts off (funerals x3 etc) i have nothing left to sell. My children try to understand but the shame i feel when they ask for 70p for the school bus and i don't have it is immense, I've tried asking the jobcentre, the council, social services all to be told you'll just have to wait. I'm at the end of my tether now. I've not been eating and because of my illness i've gone from 13 stone to 6 and a half in 2 months. I don't feel well mentally and i've told the doctor but nothing happens. I have no family to ask for help or relatives. I'm in a city where i don't know anyone and haven't had a chance to make friends yet. I really don't know what to do. tomorrow I have to take my daughter to hospital for treatment and i can't even get there. her school is over an hour away by bus and i can't get her there either. i have no one i can ask for a lift. i can't ask anyone for help with food or bills. my gas and electric is on it's last pence and the rent is due. I'm so ashamed and dissappointed in myself. I should be ale to hold it all together and be strong but i just can't. most nights i cry and just want to not be here. it's not living i' just existing and i hate it. my children deserve better. I even looked into prostitution i'm that desperate what the hell do i do? i don't even remember eating a proper meal. i make sure the kids get fed no matter what even if i go without they mean everything to me. i don't know what to do. it's so pathetic making myself ill over a lousy £50 and i can't even raise that now. i really don't know who to turn to i'm in a deep hole and i just can't get out of it. i don't know what to do

AliceInUnderpants Sun 06-Dec-15 14:54:40

Okay, firstly, well done for seeking help and advice flowers

Do they still do crisis loans, or an equivalent? You need to hit them up for money for gas an electric. How old are your children? I'm guessing teenagers, so get them to do the cooking and cleaning. Yes, foodbank for food. They will provide for you too, so you can eat.
Are your children school(s) aware of circumstances? They will have a discretionary fund that can provide bus fairs etc, until money is sorted out.

WankingInTheWinterWonderland Sun 06-Dec-15 14:56:28

Hey I don#t have advice but couldn't read and run. I'm sorry for your losses.

I am a single parent too and sometimes skip the odd meal to ensure DC are fed so you're not alone there.

Have you SS how broke you are?

ImperialBlether Sun 06-Dec-15 15:05:58

I'm sorry for your losses, but why on earth were you paying off their debts? Debts are paid from the person's estate and if there's no estate, no payment can't be made, so the debt dies.

DrewsWife Sun 06-Dec-15 15:08:16

Contact your local Salvation Army. We do a lot of helping people in similar circumstances.

Is there a school friends mum you could ask to give a lift??

dickiedavisthunderthighs Sun 06-Dec-15 15:14:06

You can get a referral to a food bank tomorrow if your situation is that dire. Do you really have no electricity or gas to cook? Are you in the dark with no heating? If that's the case you need to speak to Shelter or the council first thing tomorrow as I doubt they have any idea how serious your situation is.
Are you paying debt from the funerals? Again if you are on a limited income there is help you can get to pay for those.
Where is the father of your children or his extended family? Why can't they help?

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