My partner left me at the beginning of the year.
He had been having an affair with her co worker and she left her husband also.
It's took me a long time to accept it but I'm finally there or there shouts.
What I'm struggling with is the fact that he makes so little effort with the children between visits, he sees them twice a month but there has been no phone calls, video calling or email just to check in on them !
I know he has no obligation to talk with me and that is his choice, but he knows that if he were to call or video call I would only be too happy for the children to see and speak with him, I also wonder why at such a crucial time of year (our eldest finished nursery and starts school etc) he doesn't want to be involved in the excitement of it ? There was no call on the last day even though she had told him they were having a teddy picnic and was so excited or even an email to say how did it go.
It's such a shame and know in the long run it is him losing out I just find it odd that he will go so long and not be in touch.
Is it normal and I'm expecting too much ?
We are for the most part amicable and all exchanges are polite, he does like to overstay his welcome and come in and chat, he does little things like offer to prune my flowers and buy milk etc and he's like that at both drop off and pick up but as soon as he's gone we don't hear a peep.( he does sometimes try to get in touch that is never about the children though, normally he just fancies a chat with me) Last drop off I didn't let him or listen to his usual chit chat I just handed the kids over and he left the same again when he bought them back and he left looking dejected and a bit put out, I just think if your not going to even ask how they are between visits what is the point of entertaining him for an hour.
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Bambino1234 · 28/07/2015 07:55
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