So yesterday, after another night of rejection (sexually) and another valentines day of watching everyone around me celebrate their love, I finally ended it with my husband of nearly 4 years and my partner of 8.5 years.
We have two children, 1 and 3 and it is over.
He didnt even really fight for it, just resigned himself to the end. To be honest I think he gave up on the marriage long ago.
Our friendship has always been strong, we get on great, we have a lovely home and we spend time together well. He is helpful around the house and great with the children but he does not physically satisfy me in any way, he has begun to use sex as a weapon to hurt me with and that was really evident on Thursday night. So I have ended it.
Practically he is off to Australia for 3 weeks in March, after which he will be living in a house-share.
I know I need to change the payment method and name on the water bill, the gas n electric are in my name anyway and they are metered so no issue there, the house is a council house we just need to take him off the tenancy and I need to speak to housing benefit about support from them.
Then obviously there is tax credits.
Am I forgetting anything?
His biggest gripe this morning was that the sofa was uncomfortable to sleep on and he seems far more bothered by not being around in the morning for the kids than he is with not being with me.
So thats it, no drama, no fighting, no compassion whatsoever for the end of our relationship.
Its my 30th birthday today, I received a just painted card from the children when I got back from work at 10.30 this morning and have received no other gifts or cards.
I really really would love some support right now, I am feeling incredibly numb and low, I can't believe that 'this' is it.
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Fifyfomum · 15/02/2014 10:59
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