I split from husband last May...we have had loads of problems over the years and things had become unpleasant, aggressive and abusive during the last stages. It has been an unpleasant break up which involved police as he wouldn't leave me alone and began to threaten to 'destroy me'....anyway...we have 3 children together who seem to be going through various stages of unacceptance of our living apart. My 12 year old tells me she feels sick everyday (anxiety), my 4 year old wants mummy and daddy to get back together. Ex was drinking steadily, every night over a five year period and I think this was a huge factor in our marriage break down. He also blamed me for everything that ever went wrong. The marriage was grim in parts. And yet still I can't help but think maybe I should ask if we can try again to make it work?! Am I mad!!? I am struggling so much with the kids. It is hard being a lone parent and with all of their issues I just feel that maybe I should sacrifice my own pursuit of happiness in order to bring more happiness to their lives? Does this make sense? I have met another fella, it isn't serious but we do have some feelings for each other...I have built a new life now and go out with friends and have fun - which I didn't do before...but is it worth it? My kids are unhappy. I feel huge amounts of guilt for that. Should I soldier on or ask ex to give it another go....I think he probably would although he does say it would be hard to forgive the fact that there is now another man....Feel like I have messed up there and should have waited for my own feelings about my marriage to settle down first. HELP please!! What do you think?
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