Due to finding out about ongoing and serious welfare issues when XH has the dcs, I have stopped direct contact (under advice from NSPCC, gp, HV, SS). I really hated doing this because the dcs love their dad, but their safety has to come first. He was seeing them about once a month for a weekend when he could make time (so no regular pattern).
I've asked him to take me to court so Cafcass can assess everything, I know he is capable of bullying me into thinking he's reasonable, so I've taken the decision out of my hands IYSWIM. 2months later he still has not applied to court.
I've offered indirect contact and supervised contact in the mean time. He's ignored the supervised contact completely, but taken me up and asked to call the dcs once a week at a set time.
Four weeks in and last night no phone call. The dcs were disappointed.
He's texted this morning saying his phone ran out of batteries (so basically he forgot) and can he phone tonight. We're busy this evening, but should I be trying to rearrange? I've always been incredibly flexible but I'm tired of him taking the piss. He's always letting the dcs down. I used to never tell them when he was coming in case of a last minute "swap" request. So they'd never know, but I thought he could manage half an hour a week. Sadly not.
So, should I say "fine, call at x" or "you missed the arranged time, call next week"?
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Need advice on what to do. He's taking the piss... Again.
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McNameChangey · 17/09/2013 10:08
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