'Due to the inclement weather, I will not be picking you up up in the morning. We will pick you up at 9am on Sunday instead' (Sent to DDs phone - she had to ask what inclement means...)
Well no actually knobhead. You seem to forget that your contact is COURT ORDERED and that despite what you seem to think, the children and I do not sit around waiting for you to decide when you will see them.
'Goes back to smiling sweetly'
Ha, just watched the skit!
I don't think we're quite that bad!
Although like I said having seen the absolute worst I'm quite ambivalent about my own very difficult situation.
I'm not scared of my ex for all that he tries to intimidate me but I refuse to be in the same room as him for a number of reasons
HerrenaHarridan- He just deserves so much better and this man is just a massive twat. Im still not sure what I saw in him but we did produce a scrumptious little boy so I got what I wanted ; 0 )
There is always room for improvement! Unfortunately the difficulty is its so difficult to prove what has been going on behind closed doors and the 'system' has to err on the side of caution.
I have seen the absolute worst on both sides and tbh honest I think that even if the parents are able to discuss and agree terms informally, they should still be able to / expected to write up a binding agreement specifying what they have agreed and why with an outside arbitrator who is unbiased to ensure that what is agreed is what is best for dc.
Oh definitely HerrenaHarridan.
I help both mums and dads as a McKenzie Friend these days. I've seen enough to confirm that being an idiot has no bearing on gender...
Undoubtedly the system was designed to help vulnerable people although I would say it needs a little, erm, work to stop it being abused as it most definitely is. Abusing the system also detracts from those who genuinely need help too both in terms of time, money and credibility.
It's not `men versus women' - it's good parents against the bad ones.
How I managed to type THAT without using swear words I never know...
Wow, fool, and he really doesn't see the irony in that.
So if you shouldn't have taken the job does that mean he's planning on paying so much maintains that you don't need it
Cute your son will see him for what he is.
Lost dad, I don't get the Yorkshire men ref? I think we can adapt the title to include cuntface fuckers!
I've definitely read your posts before and it does seem that your in a very difficult position as I said to someone else on here though unfortunately the safe guards that done women sbuse are there to protect people in an incredibly vulnerable position. No system will ever be perfect and it breaks my heart when good dads are separated from their kids like this. You just have to play the long game, keep whatever contact you can wrangle going and make the contact the absolute best it can be and eventually your kids will be old enough the arrange to see you wether their mum likes it or not.
Try to be careful not to project your situation on to others, 85% of women murdered are murdered by a partner or ex partner.
So when the law is abused against you spare a thought in your heart for the people it's there to protect.
Whoops, sorry posted to soon.
... And he keeps prioritising the step kids for "family" days. Your definitely a knobhead fucker!
Oh thing, that's so sad for your dc, I think I remember reading a previous thread by you, the new mrs is pregnant already
I have to go away for work for a week as I have a new contract. Ex H says I shouldn't have taken the contract (long term, mostly working from home - it pays well). I tell him that at the moment I cannot afford to pay the mortgage and I had to take it because we have no money. He says that everyone is hard up and I should just put up with it. He expects me to get my elderly parents to come and stay to look after the kids during the week I am away as he is "too old to run around after kids and work at the same time".
Yeah, its fine for him to work and have nice holidays, but me and his kids should be poor it seems.
F**k off bas***d!!!
If we're going all `Four Yorkshiremen' I contend I didn't chose that wisely:
The one I married abducted my son without warning, made false allegations, taught my son to call the bloke she left me for `Daddy', tried to teach him that her latest victim's surname was his, moved halfway across the country, continues to pretend to be scared of me for six years and counting - refusing to talk to me on the telephone or face to face (therefore leaving my then 3-year old to say `Mummy mustn't be seen by Daddy', refused to talk, refused to mediate meaning I had to to take the matter to court where she then consented to everything she wouldn't discuss out of court and will happily get her mum to drive 300 miles across the country to care for him when she needs someone to look after him rather than contacting me (I live 20 miles away).
I went through a phase of calling her a not-too-nice name. Nowadays we call her by her first name or `Mummy' to our son.
Can I join as well please. The father of my my nine year old is also in the "Im such a massive knobhead " gang. Just lets his son down all the time and expects to be able to just stroll back in when he feels like it. He doesnt deserve any more chances so guess what hes not gonna get any ; 0 )
Can I join please?
I have two of them each with their own individual levels of knobbishness.
I had sex with two of them
I may even have married one of them
Knob1 hasn't been seen or heard of since mid October and seems his deduction from wages contribution to his dds life has now ceased too.
Knob2 cancelled seeing ds at the weekend due to snow but then posted pictures on fb of him enjoying the snow with his new gf and her two dcs
My poor ds
424 as in pounds. To pretend to cycle? He could just take the dc two afternoons a week and run round after them, keep fit and save a fortune.
What a knobhead!
There definitely are some lovely blokes who love their kids I know at least 2 dads who really bother with and actively care for their kids. Not a great ratio though
Was "thrilled" to learn that the knobhead who fathered my four DCs and hasn't paid a bean this year in child support despite the CSA's input, was able to purchase a years gym subscription at LA fitness at the bargin price of £424 today. Well I guess a knobhead who refuses to see his own children because "he deserves a life" needs some thing to do in all his free time.
I'm in too but I'm too tired to explain. Are all men like this or are some actually interested in their kids?
Well he's got his priorities straight
I hope your keeping a record!
My knobhead has decided that even thou he hasn't seen his 22 month old son for three weeks he's got confused about when he is supposed to see him and is going away with his girlfriend for the weekend next weekend so won't see him again. Apparently that is my fault for wanting routine for my son and so not being happy with a cold/night out with friends/weekends away with new go/insert random reason of choice meaning he cancels at last minute and bailing when anything more exciting is going on in his life! I have set up a schedule which he hasn't bothered to double check and so has apparently book to go away with gf for the last 3 weekends and again next weekend and so this weekend away won't be cancelled either.
His loss yesterday I asked my ds who his best friend was and he said mummy and gave me a kiss!
My ds will not miss out on people who love him no matter what and that's the main thing but it's good to vent!
We could call it knobhead fuckers anonymous!
I blame the alcohol
We should start a club - 'I had sex with a knobhead'.......
Yep knobhead is the most appropriate description for mine too but since that and shit head are taken can I claim arse face?
Just found out he has been going round telling all our mutual friends its my fault dd has spina bifida! Fortunately it wasn't the hit by a bus kind of shock you would think as he has said as much to me before ( shortly before being physically thrown out of my new single mum house --there are a few advantages to not being a size eight--)
What you really have to ask yourself is what in the world made us have sex with these men! Blergh (why isn't there a vomit emoticon?)
Mine just failed to turn up one weekend and sent a pic on his phone at 5am of a few bits of snow this would have been the time when he would have come out of his mess dinner (he is the army). I called the guardroom and asked them if cars where going in and out of barracks etc and funnily enough they said yes it is all fine. I called him and asked him what the hell he was playing at and he OW told him to put the phone down and he kept saying he wasn't drunk and that the snow was so bad the camp was snowed in. GRRR!!
KNOBHEAD. Thankfully for me he has decided he no longer wants any contact with DS so I never have to go through my DS being let down again and me having to rearrange plans.
Why are there so many of these tatty men about
I take it you are all very busy on Sunday?
My XH sent DD1 a text today to check if it was ok for him not to have DD2 for the weekend due to the snow (even though there isn't any ). I don't know why he didn't text me but I have to be impressed as it's the first time in 11 years that he's ever checked rather than just saying he wasn't coming
though I'm sure he wouldn't have come anyway if I'd said I'd made plans that couldn't be changed
BUT he forgot to tell his dad not to drive 50 miles to pick DD2 up as he does every other Friday
Join the discussion
Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.Register now
Already registered with Mumsnet? Log in to leave your comment or alternatively, sign in with Facebook or Google.
Please login first.