Self-indulgent rant really, with no purpose.
I am so fed up with manipulative, nonsense messages from x (of 9 months) about how I am 'misbehaving'. I know he won't let go because he needs to try and control me, and I am still finding it hard to detach from what he says after years of an emotionally unhealthy marriage.
His latest trick is threatening lawyers because of my 'whims' (like not giving 24h notice of being in a out of signal area at his given daily phone call to the children), or not letting him talk to two children under 6 past 2100 at night. Not answering one of his 3 calls at 8 am, because I was in the shower (not expected time to call, usually happens at his set time night). Not having seen his children for 15 weeks now, because I can't afford to drive them to him as he gives me no financial help (yes CSA involved). etc etc etc.
I am so absolutely fed up. I want to do what is best for my children. But this means I still have this abusive man in my life, I hear his voice nearly every day when he calls our children and it takes me back to the painful feelings I had during our marriage, I still get controlling abusive messages, he is dragging out the divorce, he does nothing to help me with the children either physically or financially. It would be easier to get rid of a tape worm.
So any tips from anyone on detaching and moving on. How do other people do it? I have tried therapy, talking to my GP, talking to my HV. I feel like I am in groundhog day some days, emotionally.
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Letsmakecookies · 08/12/2012 11:29
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