I know that I am the only one that can answer this question, but do I leave my DH or stay.
We have a six year DC together, but I am really thinking of leaving my marriage and taking my DC with me. All the time I am trying to weigh up the pros and cons of what is best for me and my DC.
I really don?t have anyone in RL to discuss this situation with. So I am sorry if this is going to be a lengthy post, but I really do need to get this off my chest.
I really feel that my DH is lazy ? he has his own business but only seems to work about three/four hours each day, so not bringing in an enormous wage. I have asked him to work for someone else, as this would bring in more money and also give us more security, but he states that it is too stressful. I then ask him to do things round the house if he has not got a lot of work on such as decorating etc. but his reply is that he can?t do this. Also, if he does start a job like decorating, it never gets finished, which I then decide, it is not worth asking him to even bother doing it in the first place. We have damp issues in the house so I have asked him to organise for someone to come and look at this, but again nothing is done about it. He states that it all costs money, but we have surplus money, but he doesn?t feel that we should be using it on decorating etc. I have said to him that I will ring round and get people to quote, but he always says to leave it to him. As I stated before, he works for himself, so our back garden is like a building site, he never cleans up, and we seem to accumulate other people?s rubbish. Don?t get me started on the untidiness he leaves around the house. There is always some excuse why things can?t be done, which has been going on for five years. So I have now come to the end of my tether with it all - I end up a nagging wife. I don?t want to have people round, as I am too embarrassed with the state of everything. Give him his due; he is very good to me in other ways, and he is very good with our DC, helping with school work, the taking and collecting from school etc.
So the question is would I be happier alone with DC. I am really scared that lone parenting will be extremely tough, especially when my DC is unwell and I am the only carer. Will I run out of energy and get brought down when it is challenging. I really don?t have a lot of friends in RL so I do rely on DH quite a lot; I am scared of being very lonely.
It all keeps coming back to living in a neglected house ?v- being single and lonely.
Any help would be much appreciated.
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shouldistayorgo · 17/10/2012 19:47
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