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Ex wanting to work offshore avoid csa

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Mum1110 Tue 09-Oct-12 03:05:30

Hi I'm knew to this just got a question sorry its longneed advice
Myex owes arrears by csa he hasn't had much contact with them he said a week ago he wants to see her.and we Been speaking and now suddenly he wants to work offshore so he doesn't have to pay is it true he going to get away with it. He says he come back 80 to 80 days a year. My ex lies a lot so can't beilive what he says. He hasn't seen my daughter he saying I should of done it between us but I knew he wouldn't stick to it he wants to control the situation I'm really confused bit stressed anyone been in the same situation or know anything advice would id be grateful. I'm living in scotland if that helps

SomewhereInCanada Tue 09-Oct-12 03:22:18

As far as I understand it, if he still lives in the UK then the CSA can go after him. Even if he works for an offshore company, the pay office might be in the UK anyway.

Mum1110 Tue 09-Oct-12 06:44:39

Thanks I dunno he saying it cause I never agreed to keeping it between us but he come back should be ok right then he said the tax mn can't touch him or the government bid confused thanks for the reply

Longdistance Tue 09-Oct-12 06:50:21

If he's still working in the uk, Then yes, he will be liable to pay whether he likes it or not.
Btw, he sounds charming!

procrastinor Tue 09-Oct-12 07:17:24

I always mistrust when people say they want to keep it informal. If you intended to do the right thing why would you care whether it was formal or not? It screams to me that they'd either want to be flexible about paying (only giving a tenner because they want to pay for something else they deem more important) or because they want to pay less than they should.

Saying that, I think if they pay uk taxes then they still pay CSA.

ChocHobNob Tue 09-Oct-12 10:38:19

Procrastinator, I disagree. A lot of Non Resident Parents pay through a mutual agreement at the correct amount (or more) purely because they don't want a very inadequate outside organisation making mistakes and messing up their finances. Or going into their bank account and taking more money than they are supposed to. Or buggering up their calculations and landing them in large arrears. Or demanding money is removed from their wages at source, because they refuse to set up a DD in favour of a perfectly good standing order. The list goes on ...

I am not denying some may want to keep it "informal" for their own selfish reasons, but wanting a private agreement and leaving the CSA out of the equations doesn't meant they don't intend to do the right thing in my opinion and experience.

OP if ex is still working for a UK based company, the CSA can still chase him.

procrastinor Tue 09-Oct-12 11:00:24

Choc sorry I wasn't clear. What I meant by informal I meant with no written arrangement. I would certainly want a formal written agreement that x amount is to be paid on y date and for both parties to sign that agreement. not to have that is where the risk lies as even though the separation may be amicable at that point I wouldn't want to risk that relationship deteriorating in the future and financial support to be withdrawn.

ChocHobNob Tue 09-Oct-12 11:23:41

A written maintenance agreement is not enforceable though unless court ordered or through the CSA.

ChocHobNob Tue 09-Oct-12 11:25:57

My point was a written agreement between the two parents is no different to a verbal one smile

Mum1110 Tue 09-Oct-12 17:40:48

If we was in a situation where we could of done a agreement out of csa I would of but it took the csa to get contact soon as he knew he tried to get me to change my mind to keep between us this is the guy that denied her but signed a document they sent saying he was her dad csa would do DNA he never bothered with now calls her his daughter. Money he gives would go to my daughter he being nasty I should of listened to him like he wants control of situation my daughter near 2. Just scared he would get away with it he seem to think so. Feel sorry for wee one having him as a dad . He a charming boy of 28 Thanks for everyone replies I've broke contact with him all I'm getting is him speak to me like crap.

procrastinor Tue 09-Oct-12 21:43:02

Huh you learn something new every day. I honestly thought that a properly written up agreement signed and witnessed would count. Blimey.

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