Ex-P was emotionally abusive, we split up 4 months ago. We have together DS2 who is nearly 8yo, we have a defined contact order for him from when we split up a few years ago. DS2 has asd and needs routine.
DS3 is 8mo, and a bf bottle refuser.
Ex-P has been having set access that is about to be screwed up by his employer - see threads Here in Legal and Here in employment.
How do I approach this issue wrt to INSISTING that Ex-P has access on set days so that I can move on with MY life? I don't want to block contact, I just want to have set days - if the days have to change to, say, Wed and Fri each week, then so be it, but I want to know where I stand so I can manage DS2's anxieties from his asd, and so I can have my own life that HE doesn't control.
What would happen if I stuck to my guns, insisted on set days, Ex-P couldn't make those set days due to work, and he took me back to court? Would the court order me to be flexible?
There is also the added complication that I have an older DS, DS1, and he has VERY SET access with his dad - and I'd like to be able to have some days where I have all 4 of my dc together, would the courts also bear in mind the sibling relationship there?
HELP!!
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CardyMow · 09/10/2011 00:17
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