EXP sees DD once a calendar month. It was after him deciding that he would not see her at all and me explaining/ arguing that it would be beneficial for her that he came up with this 'compromise'. I find the monthly visits unsatisfactory, it's just such a big deal (right now just for me but I'm suspecting DD might feel similarly about it when she's a bit older), huge built up for several days before and then a huge anti-climax after he's gone 4/ 5 hours later. I told him, if he can't be fucked to see her more often, which would be more beneficial to her and less stressful to me, he can not bother to see her at all just like he originally wanted.
I often read on MN boards, that it is advisable for small children to have shorter but more often contact, than rarely but for longer hours. If he went to court, would he really get a once a month visit. From what I read here I'm under impression that a judge would advise a more regular contact.
If you think, why the hell it matters how she feels about the visits, I am suspecting I might have a PND. To be honest I never thought I would get it and I have done well uptil now but things are getting on top of me. the visits are just making it worse. I do want her to see him, I don't want to stop the contact, it's just shit the way it is now. DD is less than a year old by the way.
I guess what I'm asking is whether I'm just talking crap and should be happy he sees her once a month for a day and would the judge, if it came to it, grant him a monthly visit or would he take DD's needs under consideration.
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Monthly visits of NRP - what would a judge say.
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DrinkFeckArseGirls · 03/10/2011 17:46
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