I split with my ex in October last year, things were fine at first and to be honest we kind of still had a bit of a relationship until May this year. Then i decided we needed a proper split as we were never going to work etc.
Since then i have had nothing but hassle of my ex, we have a 3 year old little girl who is my whole world. She was not a planned baby but this has never made any difference to me. To him she has always come second best to his dd from his first marriage.
My dd is a real mummy's girl and gets quite upset when she has to go to her dads. She always tells me that she wants to stay with me forever and is very loving and affectionate with me. She is a totally different child when she is with her dad.
Anyway - we had an arrangement in place with dropping her off and picking her up, and about 2 months ago i asked to change this as saturday is my day of downtime with my dd no nursery run etc and we always go out for the day. He had no problem with this until about 3 weeks ago when i got a messgae saying i was dictating to him etc. He threatened me with a solicitors telling me to be careful what i was doing. I sat it out and never heard anything.
Last weekend he kicked off again, he wants to pick dd up earlier as it interupts his rountine with his other dd and i should work around him and his other dd. I told him that i didn't have to work around him and his other dd as my dd is my only concern. and that he couldn't pick her up earlier. Again i got threatened with solicitors and he started to text me giving me her name and telling me that i was playing a very dangerous game and that i should get a solicitor.
This is a dad that puts in no effort at all with my dd doesn't get in touch with her at all while she is with me, she got rushed to hospital a few weeks ago and he couldn't leave work because he was busy "and she only had a cold" she had a temp of 40.5 and a very bad viral infection. He doesn't help cover childcare when she is off sick and expects me to work around him when he doesn't put any effort in.
I am tempted to sit it out again as i am sure he is all talk, but i am fed up of being threatened with solictors and being told i am playing a dangerous game etc. If thinks if he threantes to take her away i will dance to his tune, at the end of the day he has just been made redundent is £6000 behind with his mortgage and does not keep to any of the ruLes that he wanted to Out in place with dd so we could co-parent.
He does not like the fact i don't make an issues of things anymore and i think that is what is behind it all, i now no longer care about what he does with his life, i am only interested in my dd.
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roseyposeysmum · 22/09/2011 12:32
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