Exp collects ds on a Friday and returns him on a Sunday. (I dont have a car). Trouble is I never know what time ds will be picked up or brought back. For instance, for the last few weeks his dad has turned up at four, which barely gives him time to get back from school and pack his stuff up but that's what we've come to expect.
So last night dd was nagging me to do her surprise egg maker with her. Time was getting on so I said after her brother had gone today we'd have some girly time, have tea early then do the chocolate eggs. (She's been quiet and upset the last couple of days as her friend has moved house away from us so I really wanted to cheer her up).
So we wait, and wait...nothing. Ds texts his stepmum, she says when she gets home she'll check what time his dad is picking him up. We wait some more. I can't put tea in the oven in case he turns up because it would obviously then be thrown away. Finally at 6.45 his dad texts him and says he's on his way. So ds has gone, unfed, again. They've probably had tea so wont want to be cooking for ds and he is not allowed to snack at their house.
Dd in the meantime has had a bowl of cereal which in the grand scheme of things doesn't really matter I suppose.
On a Sunday it's the same, we'll expect him back at one time, he'll be back hours later. After several ruined dinners/waiting for him to come back so we could eat together I gave up cooking them.
all my ex has to do, all i've asked is that he lets me know what time he is collecting/dropping off ds and stick to that time. Why can't he seem to get it into his head that I have another child to consider? I cant even phone him to try and find out these things myself as although we've always been on ok terms he is an arse by nature and wont answer his phone to me. His partner is great but doesn't have a say in what he does.
Any suggestions welcome!
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Am I asking too much...just to be given a time!!!???
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TheFrogs · 15/07/2011 19:41
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