Hi,
If anyone has been in a similar situation, would appreciate some advise.
I'm at the end of my tether & don't know anymore how to deal with it all.
My DSs father is constantly putting me down as a mum. I've been a single parent since they were born (twins - now 2 1/2) with no support from him, emotionally or financially. When things are going well he can be quite nice, but suddenly if something goes wrong, in his mind, he turns on me.
We have a court order in place & he has the boys every 2nd weekend which I've always been in agreement with & phones them 3 times a week. He has to travel a long way to see them, as we live in different countries (England vs N Ireland) but it seems to have been going ok.
However the other day, one of my DS had an accident - his thumb got caught in a closing door - avulsed nail plus tiny fracture to top of the thumb. He will be fine & not in pain anymore. I told their father & he turned on me, eventually saying I didn't deserve to be a mother, never mind to his children. I was so upset. And he was due to phone the boys that evening but I just couldn't face it & said we would be out & he would have to phone the next day. I know I shouldn't have but was so upset.
Now he's accusing me of reneging on agreements & threatening to bring me back to court. Despite the fact that he has regularly changed the dates he's coming over to see them.
I'm so tired of it all and feel like this is never going to end. He'll always be there putting me down & threatening court action. He has also said that he can't wait until the boys are old enough & will then want to leave me & live with him.
I just don't know how to deal with it.
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rubin · 23/06/2011 21:57
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