I'm SO ANGRY! After years of mostly happy, but challenging single parenting (Ex swanned off to live abroad), the last 4 years having proven to be particularly emotionally demanding - (boys now 20 and 17).
- who's studying what; who's not working hard enough; who's talking like a gangster (just to infuriate me?); who's got a tattoo; who has an obsessive 'fan' on facebook; who's having to listen to lectures from 6th form college hd of dept on the failings of a private school education (sic); who's being asked to possibly leave college (oh dear have we become that cliche?); who then receives offer from first choice uni.
... all this while keeping the financial, physical and emotional ship afloat!
AND HE (the ex) has the temerity to fly in every couple of months to see his boys, take them for lobster, or sea bass and fine wine, invite them for a wine tasting or skiing weekend, and then flies out again. I COULD SCREAM. Where's the parenting?????? I know I have years of great memories that he does not, but he hasn't had all the crap either.
I know some of this is just jealousy, but I needed to let it out!!
I remember darling son said early on: "when parents get divorced you're supposed to buy the children lots of presents. why aren't we getting lots presents?" Well, they're certainly getting them now!