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CSA decision?

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macdoodle · 07/05/2011 12:03

So I finally have a CSA decision, a very significant one in my favour (to the tune of £120/week). I very much suspect my chances of getting any money from XH are zero, and suspect he would rather stop working than pay me, especially that kind of money.
Because the idiot has forced me to court, because he wouldnt agree the financial settlement, I now have evidence of his bank statements and balances which show he indeed has the money for the arrears (now over £1000), and certainly to start paying.
Anyone have any experience, of the CSA actually getting the money, can they seize accounts? What happens if he appeals?

Still made me smile, he insists he doesnt have to pay ME a penny as I earn a decent salary, but doesnt contribute or buy the DC a thing :)

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electra · 07/05/2011 12:12

Is he on a PAYE system? If so then a deduction of earnings order can be put in place and his employer will have to take it out of his wages and allocate it to the CSA who will then send it on to you. You do need to be clear with the CSA though that you want them to collect it - otherwise it's not enforceable.

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electra · 07/05/2011 12:14

Meant to say - good on your for getting this far. Don't let him make you feel he shouldn't pay - they are his children too.

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electra · 07/05/2011 12:16

Arrears are claimed the same way (usually in installments) - there is nothing he can do about it. The only way he will wriggle out of paying is if he quits his job.

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macdoodle · 07/05/2011 12:27

Thank you, I will have absolutely no dealing with him directly, and have made that clear to the CSA. The chances of him giving me the money directly are nil. I also don't want to give him any means back to harass or control me. So I am not expecting any, I won't discuss or mention it to him, and am leaving it all to the CSA. I wonder whether I should let them know I have bank details?? he isnt on PAYE as he works away for a UK based company on a contractor basis.
My bet is he has squirreled significant money to his ex and parents, will quit his job, live off that for a while and then play the same game.

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macdoodle · 07/05/2011 12:30

Not to his ex obviously, to his current GF.

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pickyourbrain · 07/05/2011 13:23

How utterly bizarre that a man would claim you don't need his money because you earn enough of your own... clearly no pride. I earn my own money and it's more than my ex but he still sontributes. |even if I dont need it its a matter of pride and responsibility isnt it?

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LegoStuckinMyhoover · 07/05/2011 17:10

My ex used to the say the same. He used to say that I am well off 'for a single mum' ! and that because I had a good job and 'chose' to work that I needn't have maintenance. Nothing surpirses me anymore.

The CSA were excellent in collecting arrears in my experience, with my ex, in our situation. But then, maybe I am lucky because I have never had any complaint with the CSA...not in 6 years!

I hope your dc gets what they are entitled to. Good luck.

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macdoodle · 07/05/2011 17:23

I don't want or especially need his money (but dont get me wrong, will be very helpful and let me cut down my evening work shifts, if I get it). But I am not going to let pride or fear stop him actually being responsible for his own children. The money will pay for things like music and swimming, shoes and school uniform, and not drunk in the pub like every penny usually is!

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Snorbs · 07/05/2011 17:29

Do let them have as much detail as possible about the ex's finances. The CSA can apply to court for various enforcement orders such as sending the bailiffs in, freezing assets, cancelling driving licenses etc. The difficulty comes in persuading the CSA to actually do any of it. Even if they do, they will drag their feet appallingly.

If you don't get anywhere with the CSA yourself then I understand they often change their tune very quickly once you get your MP involved.

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Lovemelillady · 07/05/2011 22:40

I hate blokes that think money they pay you towards to upbringing of THEIR children is more like a salary to you! Some people really have no idea how costly it is.

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macdoodle · 19/06/2011 08:29

Oh well, shortly after the decision, I received a schedule of payments splitting his arrears over the next few months.
As expected he hasnt made the first 2 payments (almost £2000)!
He has also now refused to pay the small amount to my CM that he usually paid for the one day he picked my DD2 up from nursery, while he was away. So I had to pay her as well for that £250!
I have rung and emailed the CSA with all his bank account details, both had balances of >£10000 at the end of last year. His new financial declaration (for court) now shows balances overdrawn, which is funny as he has worked away for the last 10 weeks!
Am guessing my chances of ever seeing the money is zero :(