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bobletsmum · 12/12/2010 09:31

I split with my ex 6mths ago and while things were difficult contact with my son was good. Since new girlfriend has come on scene contact has reduced stating he needs to spend the time in new relationship. He now wants to introduce my son who is 18mth old to new girl (12wks in to relationship) My gut reaction was NO this is too soon. He says he doesnt care what I think he will do it anyway - Can he do this? Does anyone know or has experience of this. I was told I could apply for a prohibited steps order - didnt really want to go down the legal route. HELP !!!!

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gettingeasier · 12/12/2010 13:28

Sadly bobletsmum there is nothing you can do about it unless he or the gf are going to be a danger or similar to your ds.

All I can suggest is you present a calm case for why you dont think its a good idea ie confusing for ds etc rather than you find the idea upsetting as it doesnt sound as though he will respect that.

Sorry

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booyhohoho · 12/12/2010 13:30

agree with getting easier. i doubt you would get a prohibited steps order. you have no proof the new GF is a risk to him. stay calm and explain slowly and clearly why you think it is too early for the introduction.

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balia · 12/12/2010 14:32

Yes, he can introduce his child to anyone he pleases, just like you can. And to be fair, at 18 months I don't really think your DS will be traumatised. You have a long way to go in separated parenting, and if contact has been good, IMO you'd be mad to do anything legal. With a child so young, you want to keep things as amicable as possible to keep the vital communication going. You never know, new g/f could be lovely and a real friend to your DS in the future - my ex's was (now his wife) Shame he is such a waste of space, of course, but I guess you can't have everything...

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hairyfairylights · 12/12/2010 18:54

yes, he can do it. Although I do personally think it's rather soon, you need to try not to let your dislike of this impact on your DC.

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bobletsmum · 12/12/2010 19:58

Many thnaks to all for your advice. I dont think he will listen to anything I say even when I am reasonable he twists what I say. I can only hope it isnt a new girlfriend every few months. My son is very anxious since our split and does not even like been left with his dad - who knows what christmas will bring. Ho ho.