We are in Europe, so not far from parents back in the UK, and we only moved at the start of this year so haven't been away for long. Not sure how long we'll be here (local contract) but we love it so far and at this point we'd happily stay for a good while (5 years +).
But.
Our parents back home really miss us and our D.C. (ie their DGC - 3y and 5y). We miss them too but are pretty busy getting to grips with things here (and working) and whilst we FaceTime occasionally the kids are rubbish at it and it's hard work and time-consuming and difficult to fit in, so feels like a bit of a chore rather than a pleasure. We have to make a point of finding the time to do it, arrange it with the GPS, then the kids sod about and DH and I end up being frustrated by the whole thing. On top of this the grandparents all seem to totally leave it us to get in touch and make the arrangements to get in touch, but then send texts complaining that they've not "seen" us recently.
I also worry about their health and something happening to them whilst we're away. I feel guilty for being abroad whilst they are in good health and worry that I'll regret spending this time away from them. I hate the thought of them getting elderly (they are currently late 60s) alone (my sibling also lives abroad, not here). Yet don't want to feel obligated to return to the UK if we end up wanting to stay here long term. And I feel sad that they miss us, especially the children, terribly. And then I feel frustrated by the pressure to keep in touch when it's never a decent conversation anyway! And then I feel guilty again!! Argh!
I don't think there is a magic answer, I'm sure it's just one if the compromises you have to make if you living abroad. But if anyone does have s magic answer I'd love to hear it
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Missing the grandparents - guilt/frustration
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BonApp · 07/06/2017 19:29
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