Sorry to unload, but maybe there is some good advice here from folks who have been through the same?
I've been living in Scotland for 7 years now and never intended to stay this long. At first, it was for a degree. Then, I was in love with a boy, had a job in my field and didn't want to move back in with my parents, so I stayed on Fresh Talent. Then, that boy and I broke up and I grew to hate my job, but the economy in Massachusetts was starting to tank and the next job was really interesting and still in Scotland, so I stayed on Tier 1. Then, I fell in love again and got married. DH happens to have a 7 y.o. child, and she is a wonderful kid.
DH and I both agreed, long before we got married, that we would stay here for at least 10 more years while DSD grows up. It is the least bad option for our family, especially for DSD. So, even if we got the chance to move tomorrow, with a really cushy lifestyle to go with it, we couldn't take it - would be heartbreaking for everybody.
That doesn't stop my homesickness though, which comes and goes regularly, still, after 7 bloody years. It has gotten worse since DH and I found out we're expecting a baby. Last night, we were talking about wills, and who would be the baby's guardian in the event we both die. I can get along fine with DH's family for the most part, but I really don't want his relatives to raise our kid - my family's values are a lot more in line with mine and DH's. And when we heard about the bombs in Boston (I am from SE Mass and still have a lot of old friends living near or working there), I've just felt totally useless and cut off from home and want desperately to go back.
So, seeing as that is not an option for at least several years, given DSD's and DH's well-being and all that, how the hell do I get over it and stop feeling like crap?
(It also doesn't help that I am really fed up with the climate this year, either. Weather forecast in my hometown is 16C and sunny. Weather here is 6C and rain. Last summer, I was still wearing my winter coat in July....)
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ProbablyJustGas · 17/04/2013 09:42
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